(Closed) Wedding gifts dilemma- please help :(

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
368 posts
Helper bee

That’s a good question! Maybe you pick a few things (a dozen?) to register for to appease your guests? Like new kitchen knives and dvd player. I know it seems silly and wasteful – or, you can always return the gifts for store credit/cash. Tacky, again. I honestly have no idea how to handle the situation… but your idea of having Fiance talk to the guests and explain the situation is a good idea – or including an incert in the invitation as to, “this is where we live, this what’s going on…” might be a nice idea, too.

Post # 4
1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If you don’t care about getting cash as a gift, you can always get the word out that gifts aren’t required and that the presence of the invitee is gift enough.  That would probably be the easiest way to deal with it, some people will still probably get you gifts/cash, but then you don’t have to register anywhere, and people would understand.  But if you say that, then you can’t be upset if people DON’T get you gifts.

Post # 5
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Can you suggest a charity you’d prefer people to donate to instead of asking for gifts?

Post # 6
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You could register for gift cards to places? I know, you said you don’t need more ‘stuff’ but perhaps next time you needed something from… Target or a nearby department store (who can’t use more linens?) a gift card might come in handy. Or, registering for gift cards at a place you can get luggage for (for your honeymoon and traveling?). Also, organizational stores like Organized Living and the Container Store usually have gift cards too and with a smaller apartment organization is key. Just a couple of thoughts.




P.S. You could also register for Amazon.com gift cards, or Barnes & Noble, etc.

Post # 7
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Are you big wine drinkers? If so you could do a wine registry. At least that way you can drink your gifts and reclaim your space. If you are sentimental you can always save the labels.

Post # 8
1955 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I think it’s perfectly acceptable NOT to have a registry at all, I’ve been to two weddings in the past year where there was none…The guests can make their own decision as to what to get you guys without the help of the registry (and hopefully they will take the hint and just give cash.)  I think if you don’t want to do a registry, then you shouldn’t and just inform anyone who happens to ask that you’re simply not doing one!

Post # 9
162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I don’t understand how NOT having a registry would be seen as gift-grabby.  If you hold to hard-core etiquette, HAVING a registry is what is rude and offensive…you’re telling people what to get you and appearing to have the expectation of gifts. 

I would think you’d be fine with not creating a registry.  Maybe think of a few things (there’s got to be SOMETHING you’d like…or certain stores you like where people could get gift cards) people could get you for those who really want to get a physical gift and just let your Future Mother-In-Law know so she can pass on the info to those who want it.

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