(Closed) Wedding gifts for each other?? WHAT!??

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m not planning to get him a gift. Though, we’re not really the best at gifts anyway. We got our Valentines Day gifts from Five Below (it’s like the Dollar Store, but a little nicer). We do plan on looking for a puppy after we return from the honeymoon, so that would be our wedding gift to ourselves, combined.

Post # 33
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Honey Beekeeper

I got my husband a watch for his wedding gift. Also, I bought his band and he bought mine.

You don’t have to buy each other a wedding gift. Only if you want to / can afford to. Your wedding bands can be your gift, or heck, your honeymoon could be your gift to each other! 🙂

Post # 34
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Blushing bee

@BurlapnLace:  

Back in the day, the wedding rings WERE the gifts the bride and groom bought and gave each other. 

 

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

In regards to the rings, he bought my WR and I bought his WR.  

In regards to wedding gifts, yes we gifted each other with something..but they were pretty non-traditional (ie: not the standard cuff links).  

I bought him a fridge about 2 months after the wedding….he had expressed an interest in having his own fridge for specialty items…so I got him one! Totally functional and he’s very happy.  

And when we move into our new house, he is going to build me a custom shoe closet for all of my lovely shoes.  

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We decided NOT to buy each other wedding gifts. We’re going to do a card. Our gift to each other is our Honeymoon!

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@BurlapnLace:  I don’t work, so I was totally broke when it came to my groom’s gift (I actually didn’t even know about this tradition until I joined WB).  Since we met playing world of warcraft, I gave him a game themed “loot chest” gift.  I made him typewritter key cufflinks, a diorama boutonniere (where we met in game), emergency kit, and socks with a custom label.  In addition, our photography package came with the choice of a bridal or a boudoir shoot, my husband chose boudoir, so I added that to the gift as well.

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

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@BurlapnLace:  You guys should!  Best gift EVER!  (Except when they knock down plants and break dishes like they did yesterday… little troublemakers.)

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@BurlapnLace:  Honestly, I see this gift-giving thing between future husband and wife to just be another way for the wedding industry to make just one more inflated buck off of people. DH and I did not give each other physical gifts at our wedding – making the liftetime commitment was “gift enough.” Do NOT feel pressured to get him something expensive! What you are doing is fine.

Post # 40
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, we didn’t do gifts. Honestly, we don’t really give each other gifts all that often. We’d rather spend our money on nice dinners, theater and travel. I didn’t get a wedding band and he paid for his from our joint wedding fund. 

Post # 41
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I know that buying eachother gifts is “tradition” but i think it’s just ridiculous. I mean i’m giving him a wife and he’s giving me a husband i think that’s plenty enough. too much money was already spent on the wedding and everything else. as far as the rings go… he bought my engagement ring that came wiith the band he knew i wanted. I bought his band. I dont think it’s the parents jobs to buy the wedding bands. tradition or not. I think i’m going to write him a letter for the morning of the wedding. we will probably land up buying eachother momentos on the honeymoon but nothing extravigant.

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BurlapnLace:  A lot of couples do buy gifts for each other to give the morning of the wedding, but we didn’t.

We paid for each other’s wedding bands and maybe like 50% of the wedding, plus we were taking a honeymoon so we didn’t feel the need to buy each other another gift.

I’ve seen a bunch of different gifts exchanged between couples – everything from simple letters to extravagant, expensive jewelery. 

It’s sweet/nice if you have the money (and a good gift idea lol) but I don’t think it’s totally necessary.

 

Post # 43
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We skipped wedding-day gifts (DH informed me that HE was my gift, lol!), and we paid for our wedding bands out of our joint wedding account.

ETA – Also, I got a plain band, so his actually cost (a lot) more than mine since it was bigger and had a design, sort of. So the girl’s band isn’t always more expensive!

Post # 44
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Busy bee

We have seperate finances but share everything. 

But i bought my ring, only because he works out of town and it came in when he was gone… and he bought his ring beceause i couldnt afford it when we found it, and we didnt seem to care who bought what. In the end, its the same .

 

I got pictures done for our wedding gift, but we have agreed to keep it inexpensive since our wedding is the most important and we didnt want to stress over another cost!

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@BurlapnLace:  I would like to give my Fiance a small gift besides the ring– if he decides to wear a shirt that would need cufflinks, I think I would give him some cufflinks because I already found some I know he would think are very cool. And I wouldn’t object to him giving me a small gift– I don’t really know what, but I’ve imagined a pearl necklace (except I could easily MAKE one for way less than they can be bought for). I don’t think wedding gifts for each other are necessary, but it seems like a nice touch to give something small that might be part of your wedding outfit.

As far as buying rings goes, we’re paying for ours with money that is technically my FI’s money, but really, once you live together, even if you have separate bank accounts, all the money is coming and going to support both of you. In our situation, the money was a gift and we thought the person who had given it would like the idea that we’re using it for our wedding rings. So I don’t think you HAVE to specifically buy each other’s rings, particularly if you share a bank account already!

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

@BurlapnLace:  My Fiance will be buying me a new set of pearls to wear on our wedding day and I will be buying him a bottle of Gentleman’s Jack.

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