- 9 years ago
- Wedding: July 2012
While I, like most, love recieving money it isn’t a gift I prefer to give.
I would rather give a gift card from the store the couple had registered at so that they can get something later on that they forgot to ask for. Places like Target, Walmart, Macys etc people can always use for a variety of things so it isn’t like it will go to waste.
For a shower, I usually give a gift off the registry. For a wedding, I give a check or gift card.
If I’m going to the wedding, I tend to give cash unless I know there’s something they REALLY want or need from the registry. I always use registries for showers though, and if the registry is full then I’d probably give something else that can be returned. If I can’t make it to the wedding, then I usually mail a gift card to the place that they’re registered or if they aren’t, then somewhere like Target or Pottery Barn.
I personally don’t give cash because I don’t like people knowing exactly how much I spent… I know that is silly because they are the ones who registered for the gift I give, so they can obviously find out how much I spent if they cared – but it’s just this weird mental block I have. I always give a gift receipt in case they want to return or exchange it.
I usually like to buy wedding gifts somewhat early so I can choose what to get instead of having the registry be picked over. But in the few instances where I haven’t bought off the registry, I have given a gift card to one of the stores where they couple is registered.
Cash is always a great gift, especially in large amounts!
I usually look at the registry, then see if there’s anything that I can get for a better price elsewhere. I might stray a little bit and say get something in their dish pattern that they haven’t requested, like another serving dish (if the registry is full).
Mostly cash. Also, cash is often preferable to gift cards, because the couple may get a completion discount that’s worth more when using cash than gift cards.
Registry gift. DH and I prefered a gift from our registry over cash 100% because we registered for things that we wanted but wouldn’t buy ourselves – waffle iron, fancy blender, kitchenaid mixer, portable grill, etc.
Are the couple registering for basic household items or more specialty stuff? If its basic household items, I would get a gift card for the store they registered for. They may change their mind or decide to get something they can’t put on a registry.
If the registry in full, gift card for the store still.
I always give a gift, unless they just aren’t registered. I feel like there’s so much judgment in how much you can give. I had people just buy us a couple utensils – and that was fine! I knew their financial situations were difficult. They probably would’ve felt bad about giving the monetary equivalent of those gifts, and the thought was really appreciated.
I just knew how nice it was to get gifts and have that taken care of for us. But then, we didn’t move in or start accumulating “things” until we got married, so I really did need all the kitchen and household things. Some couples are already settled and have those things, so they feel they don’t want gifts.
Also, like gigimoku said, sometimes the registry has really cool gifts that the couple wants to receive but wouldn’t buy for themselves, like expensive picture frames or KitchenAids or whatever. I think that’s what a gift truly is – something someone wants but wouldn’t necessarily buy for themselves.
I have a friend’s wedding coming up this month and they don’t have a registry, so I already feel awkward thinking about what we can afford to give. I mean, I know how much I’d pay for a gift, but this feels so naked and out in the open to just give money. They also gave a large check to us at our wedding and we can’t afford to give the same amount – maybe half, and that’s stretching it.
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