Post # 1
My sister-in-law is getting married. It’s the fourth wedding, and will be taking place in New Hampshire in early May. I have absolutely no idea what she will wear (weddings one through three were big affairs with white dresses and long veils), since she’s not been very forthcoming with information, but I’ve been told that fiance is opposed to a white wedding (he’s Catholic and was previously married too). The invitation does not provide many clues, and the time of day (4 o’clock) means that black tie is inappropriate.Besides, the wedding is in a church, and black tie is party attire, so I guess it would not really be very appropriate.
Of couse, I know not to wear white/ivory, black and red, since I don’t want to send the wrong signals. Should my husband wear morning dress (he has everything in his wardrobe) or will a lounge suit (navy blue?) with a white French-cuffed shirt, silver tie and linen kerchief suffice? What about me? I was thinking of a navy blue silk dress (knee length), navy patent leather pumps and bag, pale pink dress coat (knee-length) and a small hat or fascinator. Is that formal enough? I am not from the US (European who grew up in UK), and my family is very conservative.
The reception location is also a big secret (invitation states that guests will receive this information after the service), so here’s another conundrum. I really like my sister-in-law, but I am throughly confused. It’s a wedding, and not a treasure hunt, where you have to pick up clues. Should we bring a change of clothes just to be safe?
P.S. There is no Web site, and my mother-in-law does not have additional details either.
Post # 3
Your outfits sound fine. If you are not sure, why not give her a phone call?
Post # 4
I was about to tell you that e you might be over thinking this. But then I read that the reception location is a secret. I’m sorry that’s just dumb. I would address it directly with a phone call.
“Hi X, Darling Husband and I are so excited for your wedding, but I’m a little confused on the details. Can you help shed some light on the venue/theme so I can coordinate our attire appropriately? “
If she refused to tell you, (which seems incredibly silly to me unless she is some famous actress who is avoiding paparrazzi or something) I would then go with “Well, I’m thinking that Darling Husband is going to wear… And I have a blue dress, blah blah blah.. Do you think that’s appropriate? I really want to make sure I’m not cold/sweltering/overdressed, etc.”
If she’s still no help… I’d then pull out the Trump card. “Ok, well since I now know I should be prepared for anything, I’ll wear jeans & trainers just in case you make us do something loopy.”
$100 says she’ll tell you after that. ; )
Post # 5
Oh, I love that! The trump card of threatening to wear jeans and trainers in case we have to go horse riding, trail building, etc. I’ve actually tried ringing her twice, and ended up leaving a message for her on her mobile to see if I could get any additional details. That was almost two weeks ago, and I have not yet heard back from her. I don’t know the groom at all (I’ve never met him), otherwise I might be tempted to contact him or his family. We live far apart, so I cannot just stop by and have a gentle little chat either.
I honestly do not know whether or not I should bring a pair of trainers or an evening gown for the part following the ceremony.