Post # 1
Help! I am getting married in June 2016 and the first time meeting FI’s extended family is gonna be in a few weeks at his cousin’s wedding. Her wedding invitation had no designation formal/semiformal/casual….nothing. FMIL says that formal is totally the way to go but she is wearing a “mother of the bride” dress because basically their her parents…long story. So I dont really trust using her dress as a reference.
ANYWAYS….I purchased a dress online. It came in and it is absolutely GORGEOUS! However, I am concerned that it is not appropriate for the wedding. It’s strapless and fairly formal.
I just want to give a good impression and Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law are not being very helpful. The wedding is on a Saturday in a few weeks at Coyote Ranch Resort at 7pm. I’m inferring semi-formal –> formal, but the family is from a hick-town in Oklahoma and all the guests will be travelling there to stay the weekend. Therefore, I’m thinking it could go either way and end up being like a jeans kind of wedding but Fiance and Future Mother-In-Law are equally in the dark about attire. FI is wearing slacks and a polo.
I definitely dont want to be underdressed, but I also dont want to be overdressed and come off snobby or something…ugh Please Help Me
The link to the pictures of the dress are attached. Basically, can you tell me if you think that this could pass as semi-formal? Or is it not appropriate for the wedding and should I go with something a bit safer?
Post # 2
I love the dress! I would wear it. It’s always better to be slightly overdressed than underdressed…at least in my opinion.
Post # 3
The dress is fine, but please tell me you did not pay $268 for a polyester and spandex maxi dress!
Post # 4
I love this!
I think that because of the print it can really go either way so I wouldn’t feel to concerned about it being to formal. If you are worried though you could pair it with flats instead of heals.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t worry, I think it was probably her money and not yours that she spent!
op lovely dress. It looks semi formal but will probably not overpower your mans slightly more casual outfit.
Post # 6
It’s beautiful and could work either way. I googled the venue and most of their wedding photos look not so formal, but I’m one who would always rather be overdressed than underdressed. I’d wear that dress with slightly understated hair, makeup, and accessories, but bring some lipstick and eyeliner (and maybe some jewelry) in case it turns out to be a little fancier after all.
Post # 7
It looks lovely. Re your guy though… A polo? No.
Post # 8
If youre concerned about looking overly formal though, I’d go with a cocktail length dress. And tell your guy to atleast wear a sport coat and tie. its a wedding not a golf course lol.
Post # 9
I think it’s odd you’d wear such a formal dress if your husband is wearing pants and a polo….I also googled the venue and it seems pretty…country.
Personally, I would feel uncomfortable and would wear a short cocktail dress instead.
Post # 10
love it! and i think it could go either way depending on your shoes and accessories. just take some back-up pieces with you in case you need to alter your level of fancy. i’d rather be over-dressed than under-dressed.
Post # 11
Alright, thanks for all the feedback guys!
The dress showed up and even with heels it is about 5 inches too long. I guess they make them for models lol. I am a weirdo, I hate being overdressed, hence my paranoia and asking you all for your advice. I think I’m gonna go with a shorter cocktail dress..especially since I would have to get it hemmed.
Post # 12
I love that dress and think if you threw a jean jacket over it it would look adorable. Casual and dressy at the same time!
Post # 13
I’d send it back. If you’re paying $268 for a dress, you shouldn’t have to do any alterations. I’d look at the $150 and lower range. Look at David’s Bridal or JCrew for some nice chiffon dresses, both knee length and floor length. JCrew is having a great dress sale right now.
Post # 14
I think it is a little to fancy. It looks more like a prom dress.
Post # 15
Love it. Not showing too much skin while being stylish will make a good impression no matter what. THat dress could go either way depending on how you accessorize. If you Fiance is wearing slacks and a polo, you should be able to wear this dress and a pair of sandals (not flip flops) and some earings. Maybe even a jacket with a little “edge” to it. I agree that price is high for polyester and spandex. Try a local store and buy a similar style at a better price. I would stear clear of very short cocktail dresses if you are worried about a good impression and being over dressed. IMO slack and polos = Sun dresses and sandals, informal attire.