Wedding Guest Attire: How much is too much?

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

They are all fine, but I like 1 and 4 the best. 

Post # 17
6061 posts
Bee Keeper

I think theyre all fine.

Most people aren’t 6′ tall like the models, so the dresses wont be as short.

Post # 18
9123 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

all of them are wedding appropriate for me.

Post # 19
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Depends on venue.  Moderately formal churches often frown on spaghetti straps and heavily frown on strapless.  I had to put a “please no strapless/backless” stamp on our website because we’re getting married in a moderately formal church–I assume most of our guests would know this, but FH’s family is from a different background and might not and I’d rather not have there be a stink.  Since weddings tend to attract people like grandmothers, I always figure it’s best to play it safe anyway.

Post # 20
875 posts
Busy bee

They are all appropriate for a Dallas wedding, especially at the Arboretum and not a more conservative church. 



Post # 21
2546 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

faboflexy :  I like #2 the most- it is a little short, but with it being fairly modest otherwise I think it would be fine… Personally I think 3 is the most revealing and would not wear that particular dress to a wedding… I’m not a fan of the style of #4 but its the most conservative as you could pair it with a cardigan or something else nicely.. 

Post # 22
327 posts
Helper bee

They’re all fine. No one is going to care. 

Post # 23
5978 posts
Bee Keeper

I like number 1 the best- especially if you pair it with shoes similar to the ones the model is wearing. I love those shoes!

Post # 24
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think they are all lovely, and all but the 5th photo, appropriate– The 5th photo is really pretty,  but that dress does not look safe to sit in… unless it falls differently on you. You have to take into consideration that height changes the length. 


Post # 25
1911 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I think 1-3 are fine! I have a dress with a similar strappy-back style I’m thinking about wearing to a beach wedding in September, but I was on the fence about whether the back was too revealing?

Post # 26
4846 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

faboflexy :  I’d say the last one is OK because it looks the longest.  

As context, I just returned from a wedding at which a guest was wearing a short dress, and when she bent over to get something out of her bag, everyone at my table was able to see far more than we cared to.  Suffice to say she was not wearing panties.  Ugh.  Eye bleach.  

Post # 27
9614 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think they are all appropriate for a semiformal/cocktail type wedding. Things always look really short on the models because theyre so tall! RTR shows pics of girls wearing the dresses in real life, probably a better reference.

Post # 28
9540 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

I would wear any of those to a wedding (assuming it wasn’t black tie or something.) They all seem appropriate to me.

Post # 30
2210 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

faboflexy :  I think I just have pretty consevative taste. I think something as understated as possible is my instinct for wedding attire. As long as you feel comfortable and aren’t exposing too much skin, you should wear what you like.

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