(Closed) Wedding Guest Boycott

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@dfontaine07:  I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I think it is SO rude for people to react like that. I guess when stuff like this happens you see everyone’s true colors. I’m hoping this isn’t going to happen to me. I’m waiting for the bomb to be dropped next week at my cousin’s graduation when my parents warn about the no-kids thing. We did it out of financial practicalities… I have a good 25 cousins just on my side of the family… But anyways I hope everything works out for you and I’m sure you have a wonderful day whether or not they show up. Who wants debby downers at your wedding anyways ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

If they aren’t coming because of something like that, then do you really want people like that present at your wedding anyway? If they love and support you both, then they would be there for you. Look at it this way…you’re saving $$$ by not having to feed X amount of people…who seem to have an attitude.

Post # 5
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585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Do not take this personally

 

How far are they traveling? I would be upset 2 if i was traveling a semi long distantance just b.c what are they supposed to do with the children? 

 

I get not wanting babies. Totally understandable but 10 years old? really? they are not going to bother you or make ur day less special. 

 

You made the decision to have a kidless wedding so i think you kinda gotta live with the “boycot”. Sorry i really hope i wasn’t to harsh thats just my two cents. i hope you have a fantastic day! if it makes you feel any better my dads and stepmoms whole side is not coming. except like two people and its really depressing! hope everything works out

Post # 6
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5886 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I’m so sorry that his family is just being so petty. But my feeling is, that if people can let go of what they think a wedding should be and celebrate my wedding, I don’t want them there. It is sad, but they people who do show up are the ones who really love you.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Lol.  I would be happy to have dodged that bullet.  I would not want anyone like that at my wedding anyway.  If they change their minds, I’d be saying “Sorry, we are at capacity and the numbers have already been submitted.”

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I agree 10000x with all the previous posters. These boycotting family members would just bring  negative energy to your wedding. I’m sure if they’re this demanding regarding their children, other drama would spring up. Though it sucks for your Fiance and his mother, it’s probably a blessing in disguise.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Wow thats so rude. Unbelievavle. Its your choice to have children or not have children at your wedding. We’re having a formal wedding and children were not invited. For the out of towners with children, we will try to make arrangements to have a babysitter for them. But its really not that unusual for children to not be invited. Its understandable if they couldn’t come due to not being able to get a sitter for that long or something, but to “boycott” your wedding is just so juvenile.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

@BearcatBetch:  I agree- when you make a choice you have to live with the possible outcomes.

If they feel like they cannot attend due to not wanting to leave their kids that is their choice, the same as it was your choice to exclude kids from your wedding. I don’t think it is fair to be angry at them (disappointed sure) for having to make a choice.

Post # 11
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t think the boycot is cool.  Those that have the kids choosing not to come because they don’t want to leave thier kids is one thing.  But others doing it because you won’t have kids is just rude.  Is that really how they want you guys to remember his family?  Is that how they want to remember your wedding?  We had a child free wedding (very very small). 

Unfortunately, you can’t change how people act, you can only change how you react.  Invite people who are going to have fun without kids and forget about those others.

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

that’s just crazy

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i’m sorry that you feel this way.  you wouldn’t want them there anyways with this “attitude”.  

i just don’t understand why people feel this entitlement to bring their children to weddings when it is clear that it’s not going to be child-friendly.

when i was young, my older cousin was getting married and they drew the line at age 10 for kids.  well, when the invite came, my brother (11) and sister (10) were on the invite.  i was 9.  i had to stay home.  my parents weren’t boycotting the wedding for this decision.  they respected the wishes of the bride and groom and i accepted that.

 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Well, you said you didn’t want children at your wedding. I guess you got your wish, because now the relatives who act like children won’t be there. These people are petty and selfish. Who needs ’em?

I am also having an adults-only reception. Otherwise, we’d be paying $85 a head for children to come and poke at their food. It’s not that we don’t like kids, either, but we are going for a particular “adult” vibe (especially since there will be drinking), and we’re keeping our wallets and the size of our space in mind. If there are people who can’t understand that and are so selfish to think they have a “right” to have their eighty bajillion kids come, then I wouldn’t want someone so petty there anyway. They clearly don’t have any desire to support you and be there for you on your special day and are more concerned with their own wants.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

this is what my aunt told me when I started planning my wedding. “you’ll see who really cares about you by who shows up” just a little food for thought

Post # 16
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Bumble Beekeeper

@Katherine27:  I think that is a little harsh rule to apply! Lots of people have to miss weddings for very valid reasons that does not mean they don’t care about you or support your marriage!

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