(Closed) Wedding guest Complaining about date

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 17
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554 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Sigh, so annoying. We have to plan our weddings before we know football schedules and I feel it’s ludicrous to consider ALL of fall off limits due to football. Fall is the nicest time of year!

The LSU-Alabama game will be happening at the same time as my reception. While I won’t have more than a couple of guests who will be personally invested in the game (LSU alums), I will have a number of rabid SEC football fans there, and this post prompted me to call the restaurant where my reception is taking place and find out if there is a TV at the bar downstairs. There is. So now I know where some of my guests will be hanging out…

Of course the drinks upstairs will be free; the drinks at the bar downstairs will not…hopefully that means I’ll at least occasionally see some of these folks at my reception.

Post # 18
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297 posts
Helper bee

I don’t get complaining about it. Even if I really, really cared about the football game, I’d carefully consider what I wanted to do and then RSVP appropriately. If they choose the game over your wedding, that sucks… but I still don’t see why they feel the need to complain about it. If you have something else going on the day of a wedding and can’t attend, just send in your polite declination and leave it at that.

Ugh, people.

Post # 20
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202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Luckily I won’t have to worry too much about that – people in Canada only really start watching College football during the playoffs, and so far there is no hockey season due to the NHL lockout. However, there is supposedly a big boxing rematch fight the day of our wedding, but there won’t be any TVs around. If they really care, they can PVR it or catch updates on their phones.

The day after our wedding, though, my Fiance and I plan to watch the New England – Buffalo game before we head off to our honeymoon. I am a Patriots fan and he’s a Bills fan, so it should make our first day as a married couple pretty interesting 😛

Post # 21
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892 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My wedding was the same day as the Stanley Cup Playoffs, and a Red Sox game.  People LIVED!  Keep your wedding day – you can always play it off as “I got married the same day that X team won!”

Post # 22
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1953 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@TyCharliesgirl:  Obviously you come from a family and region that are big college football people. While it is rude of them to be vocal about disliking the date you chose, first rule of picking a wedding date is never pick a date that interfers with a something your family is big on. You wouldn’t get married on christmas morning and expect guests to show up, the same goes for major events that your family is into, while it’s your wedding and completely your choice to choose whatever date you want, you also have to be prepared that when picking a date that coincides with something your family is big into there will be complaints.

Post # 23
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2639 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I saved an email from a friend during the wedding planning- STILL cracks me up:

“My cousin is having a Friday wedding in June too in Detroit. You aren’t looking at the 22nd are you?!  Cause you you know you have to plan around us : )  JK, but it does seem like everyone wants you to cater to them, doesn’t it?  I was asked to plan around multiple college football teams schedules and deer hunting season.  I’m not kidding.”

Considering that this season’s schedule probably wasn’t even out when you booked the venue, it is what it is. Sorry that people are being tools.

Post # 24
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1258 posts
Bumble bee

Tell them to Tevo your wedding – oh, no, wait! They can’t! Because it’s a real life event and not a game on tv! Tell them you realize you’re asking them to make a terrible decision between watching friends/family get married or watching strangers fall down. Jerks. 

People who act like they’re doing you a favor by coming to your wedding make me crazy. You know what, if you get married on a weekend in the fall, there’s going to be a damn football game. If you get married anytime in the winter/spring, there’s a basketball game. Spring/summer, baseball. Gah. It’s just sports. It’s not worth missing a life event over. 

 

Post # 25
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

well,

The Michigan – Michigan State game is the day of our wedding.  So, yes.  We’ve gotten some comments.

If it’s a night game we’ll do our best to get a TV in there for them.  But it’s really out of my hands.  

Post # 26
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

People suck.

My wedding day was the end of June and my aunt and uncle have a small yacht on Lake Erie they go to every weekend in the summer. It just so happens that the son of their best friends was getting married the week before me and they actually asked me to chnage teh date to late September or October so they wouldn’t have to miss 2 weekend at the boat.

I told them to eff off. They ended up shutting up and had a blast at my wedding.

Post # 27
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940 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center

I was worried we might pick a date with a Sounders home game, but my Fiance assured me that if one ends up on that day, we will sell our tickets and he’ll be at the wedding!  

But seriously, how are you supposed to plan a wedding from months, sometimes more than a year, in advance, around sports schedules that haven’t been released?  Super rude to assume you did it on purpose or that sports would take presedence over your wedding celebrations.  If the sports are such a big deal to them, let them go, they’ll just be distracted and distractions anyway!  Or don’t let it bother you when they step out to go to a sports bar or something nearby for a few hours.  

Post # 28
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Newbee

So I’m a huge football fan and that’s definitely something that would have crossed my mind but the difference is that I would NOT think twice about attending the wedding over a football game.

😉

 

But in all seriousness, I totally understand.  I’m getting tons of crap for my wedding date too because some people think my Fiance is being selfish about the date.  (backstory:  he only gets X days off per year – NO EXCEPTIONS – so we literally only had 2 options).  I don’t care – I understand the demands of his profession.  I’m getting married and you can be part of it or miss out.

 

BAM. 

Post # 29
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3189 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@GroovyHippieChick:  I was just about to say, I know people who would probably have a fit if they had to miss their precious MSU vs UofM of UofM vs Buckeyes game…I don’t get it. It’s so rude that people actually comment on it – like how dare you plan a super important event in your life the day of a football game? *eye roll*

I am a very sarcastic person, so my responses to those people would be…fun. lol

Post # 30
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It worked out that my team had a bye week. My orginal date would have fallen on a game day. I was going to make sure to have a some sort of update or even the game playing on mute. Maybe you can do that? My family is big on football, but they understand that my day is more important. I know that it is just football and my day comes once a year, but I wanted to make sure that they would not choose football over me. But as the others said, guess they are dumb if they didnt come just because of that. 

P.S. they release the college football schedual at least two years in advance

Post # 31
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3078 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Wonderstruck:  It’s definitely one of those things I never thought I’d have to worry about.

But it is what it is.  Honestly, if they’d rather stay home and watch the game – do it.  It would be better for all involved. 

(I’m a little cranky with the wedding so close lol) 

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