wedding guest dress

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

lazoozoo :  The dress looks good on you, but I think that’s more appropriate for a night out on the town, not really a black tie wedding. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

It’s a nice dress! But are you planning on wearing a bra or anything underneath? Nipples are showing and I think some people might find that nipples don’t really fall under dress code for a “black tie” haha! 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

No. The spaghetti straps and low neckline make it too revealing and inappropriate for a wedding. And do not wear boots to a black tie wedding. Google “black tie wedding” and you’ll find plenty of suggestions on appropriate wear. Given that this is a new boyfriend, err on the side of caution when it comes to modesty and formality.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

lazoozoo :  If it is truly Black Tie, I would suggest something similar to this:

And for the rehearsal dinner, a more subsued yet stylish outfit: 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It doesn’t look black tie to me – you look amazing in it, but the low neckline/high split is too much for a wedding and looks more of a night out dress. Especially one where you don’t really know the couple/rest of the guests!

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 If you don’t want to spend money on another dress, you could consider getting a sheer embroidered blouse that woud go with your dress, so it ends up looking like a blouse and skirt.

 

 

Post # 9
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Busy Beekeeper

I feel like most people on this site haven’t been to actual black tie weddings. This dress – with appropriate adornments – would absolutely be acceptable at the ones I have attended. I’d agree with proper undergarments, but with jewellery, hair and makeup done, a shawl, clutch and nice shoes you’d fit right in. 

Where is the rehearsal? Dress/boots sound on the casual side, so if it’s at a bbq or picnic style that might fly. Personally I’d go cocktail dress. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

That is way too revealing of a dress for a black tie wedding, especially in Atlanta. And it’s super inappropriate for the first time you meet a lot of your boyfriend’s family members. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee

p.s. go on Rent The Runway and set the filter to black tie, but skip anything with a super low neckline, high thigh slit, or tight fit.

Eta: and no side cutouts.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

Not black tie and definitely not appropriate for an Atlanta black tie (or even a formal) wedding. You want to err on being over dressed and that dress is too flimsy and too revealing.

 

Second the Rent the Runway suggestion above and pick one body part to highlight, not boobs and legs.

 

Boots and a dress sounds too informal as well unless you’re going to a BBQ joint. I would do a classic LBD for the rehearsal.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

jellybellynelly :  I have attended quite a few black tie weddings, and this would not be deemed black tie at all where I live. It’s not just the neckline and side slit. The fabric is very casual.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee

lazoozoo :  It is lovely but definitely not what I would consider Black Tie. Personally I believe the fabric and cut is more casual than I would be comfortable going to a black tie wedding in. Black Tie means a formal gown, however if you are sure that is it slightly less formal (going off your partner’s word) that would still make it Formal/Black Tie Optional, and even then I would feel that dress (while beautiful) is still too casual based on the fabric. At the end of the day it just matters what you are comfortable with, but if it was me I would keep that dress for a cocktail/semi-formal party and I would rent a cost-effective safe bet.

https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/adrianna_papell/black_choker_gown

https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/halston_heritage/dahlia_cape_gown

https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/jenny_yoo/navy_cassie_gown

https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/lm_collection/navy_sweetheart_gown

https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/aidan_mattox/black_bow_crepe_gown

 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I think the post is a little misleading XD I agree with PPs that if this dress is REALLY DRESSED UP then yes I think you could pull it off, but you are showing yourself wearing it without a bra, no shawl, no statement jewelry, and no stilettos or anything, so yes, a quick glance at this and people are gonna go “oh sweetie, um no” lol 

However I also agree with other PPs that you could do better. Black, silver, and gold are the best for black tie weddings (though don’t go white on the silver, obviously). And I think buying a whole new, fancier dress would be cheaper than buying the things necessary to really dress this teal one up. Google some black tie wedding getups, get to Macy’s, and see what you see. A very nice, formal black tie event dress will always be used again, so it wouldn’t be a waste of your money, either 🙂 

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