wedding guest dress

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 16
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Honey bee

We can agree to disagree on whether you can dress it up to the standard of black tie, but the dress is still inappropriate.

Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper

julies1949 :  Perhaps, but someone suggested literally a silver sequened dress – more appropriate for a NYE party than a black tie wedding. People also suggested RTR “black tie” but then exclude a bunch of filters that are somehow not deemed black tie, even though they are. That doesn’t even make sense. 

There was a post a while ago where someone else wanted to wear a really fashion forward dress to a formal (I dont think black tie) wedding and people said it looked like a T-shirt or a bag. It was a structured classy piece that was absolutely formal enough for the location. I get it, people draw from what THEY think is appropriate, but when so few people on here have even attended a real black tie event, I think the advice gets skewed to what they *imagine* it should be. 

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

jellybellynelly :  I can be accused of many things, but not knowing what is appropriate to wear to different events is not one of themwink

Post # 20
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Busy bee

Is it a stretch Jersey knit dress? It definitely has alot of stretch to the material. Tbh this is something I’d wear to a casual wedding in the cold months or a beach wedding. Maybe you can look into different dresses instead of buying a nude bra for this one? To me, black tie events= none stretchy materials.

Eta: while this dress fits you just fine, if I wore it to a casual or beach wedding, I’d be hiding the chest.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

lazoozoo :  Sorry bee, still not a huge fan of this for such a formal event. 

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Premier Ballroom

I would buy a more formal one. Cute dress though! 

Post # 24
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Honey bee

jellybellynelly :  are you talking about my no low cut, no high slit, no tight fit criteria? Those relate to appropriateness for her boyfriend’s family wedding, not black tie. 

Post # 25
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Honey bee

Back to the OP, it looks better with a bra, but I still think it is too casual and definitely not the image you want to present to your boyfriend’s family especially in Atlanta, which is very conservative dress wise. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Hmm. I agree that dressed up it looks a lot better. I can’t say my personal opinion because I’m self-conscious of cleavage inherently so I never would have bought the dress in the first place. But I do realize that, if you got nothing else, there’s a problem.

I like juilie’s original idea of adding a blouse on top. Something cheer – perhaps black or navy blue? I’m not sure a shawl gives the coverage you really should have. 

As far as the fabric, I think it’s fine. It’s just a five-hour wedding – you’re not going to the Oscars. You should definitely do something about covering the cleavage though. 

As a side note, I do like the jewelry 🙂 

Post # 27
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

jellybellynelly :  people draw from what THEY think is appropriate

 just like you

but when so few people on here have even attended a real black tie event

how would you possibly know who has attended what?

Post # 28
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Busy Beekeeper

zl27 :  Fair enough! I thought you were implying that RTR also didn’t know what was considered black tie, which I thought weird. I understand now, apologies for taking that out of context. 

julies1949 :  It’s been posted many times on this site that few have actually been to black tie events. Even more when you consider all the folks “planning” “black tie weddings” that are cash bar buffets with a honeyfund attached to the invite lol. 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m really not a fan, even with the bra. It’s not black tie at all if that’s what you’re going for and there’s so much skin showing for a family wedding. 

Post # 30
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Bumble bee

The material is very casual. There’s no way to dress up a dress to black tie level when the very base of it screams casual IMO. A necklace and shawl isn’t going to hide the fact it’s a stretchy jersey type fabric. 

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