wedding guest dress

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 61
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1053 posts
Bumble bee

The dress is perfect for black tie! Definitely do wear it. You’ll totally impress your bf’s family and all of Atlanta society.

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No, that’s not what I really think but it’s clearly what you want to hear so just wear the damn dress and report back. 

Post # 62
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

The thing is…I think a more conservative dress would be appropriate and I personally would not wear that dress to a wedding. BUT. Your boyfriend clearly doesn’t think that not adhering to the black tie dress code is a problem and so I’m not sure it really matters in this case if you are both inappropriately dressed. 

Post # 63
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1053 posts
Bumble bee

Look, I’ve been to all the major debutante balls in Houston and Dallas as well as black tie weddings in Houston, Dallas, New Orleans, and Birmingham. I would have been mortified to be so under-dressed at any of those Southern black tie events.

 

We’re literally ALL trying to save you from being super embarrassed in front of your new boyfriends family. If ever there is an occasion to aim for slightly over-dressed versus woefully under-dressed, this is it.

 

Your dress is very pretty but it’s appropriate for a non-church garden wedding or beach wedding. Not a black-tie wedding. Not with a bra. Not with that necklace. Not with that shawl. It’s the dress itself that due to the fabric is just.too.flimsy and there’s literally no amount of dresssing it up that will change the fabrication.

Post # 64
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777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

If you do end up wearing this, find a strapless bra. Visible bra straps are tacky 

Post # 65
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1017 posts
Bumble bee

lazoozoo :  Constructively, do you currently own any other outfits which may be suitable for black tie? Can you rent/buy? What styles would you be comfortable with?

Also, you don’t have to wear a dress. Another option is a sufficiently dressy jumpsuit, which has the advantage of both being fashion forward and potentially more comfortable.

Post # 68
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3834 posts
Honey bee
Post # 69
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655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

If you want something that is ‘a-line’, v-neck and short enough to dance in – how about something like this?  This is classy and still young and fashionable (IMO).

Post # 70
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Sugar bee

lazoozoo :  From the accessories you’ve posted, you seem to have a boho vibe. I would suggest integrating that style, as it will make you feel more comfortable. The jacket below, for example, could give that boho touch to your outfit, and you could later on wear it even with jeans and a t-shirt:

Post # 71
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1017 posts
Bumble bee

lazoozoo :  could you post a picture of this dress? I think each element alone, low cut, jersey material, high slit, would have been ok – especially if the jersey was thicker and lined, but together it’s too much. Also, given that you are meeting potential family for the first time, I would recommend refraining from displaying too much cleavage.

Post # 72
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1763 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

Oh my goodness, this thread. XD

Post # 73
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935 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

This dress is not black tie. With or without jewerly sorry but its not, also I especially wouldnt wear this when making a first impression on people who could potentially become your in law family for life.

Wear it or dont, up to you but if you want the honest truth thats it

Post # 75
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272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2019

Oh jeez people watch one episode of Gossip Girl and all of a sudden they’re experts on black tie events. 🙃

Normal people of normal wealth would wear that dress, you’ll be fine.

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