Post # 1
I have a wedding to go to in a few weeks. With my own wedding coming up and finances being tight, I didn’t really want to go out and buy a new dress for it. I was hoping to throw on one of my LBDs and call it a day. But, I found out the bridesmaid’s colors are black. I know it’s frowned upon to wear the same color as the bridesmaids to a wedding (granted you know the colors ahead of time). But is it the same when the wedding colors are black? Should I try to find a different color dress?
Also, if I should go buy a new dress, what color do you suggest? I would think a nice bright, springy color would be nice for May but if the bridesmaid’s are wearing black, does that condone a darker/more elegant color scheme for guests?
Post # 2
ChrissyMary9515: I would wear your LBD. No one gets to call dibs on black. Dibs on periwinkle? Perhaps. Black? Hell no.
Post # 3
Maybe wear your black dress with a bright coloured cardigan or belt – something to break it up?
Post # 4
Yeah, I would def just wear the LBD. I’m sure it’s a totally different style from the BMs’ dresses, and as PP said, it’s not like it’s some obscure color–it’s black! I bet lots of folks will be in black.
Post # 5
Wear your black dress. I wore a blue dress to a wedding where the BM’s wore blue – pretty much the same shade of blue, too. No one seemed to care. The bride certainly didn’t.
Post # 6
I would not change your choice of dress as a guest just because the BM’s are wearing black. Chances are 1 in a million that they will be even remotely similar.
Post # 7
As long as you’re not wearing white/ivory (or color of bride), I say you wear whatever you want 🙂
Also, if it was important to the bride to not wear the same colors, she would have stated it in her invitation under the dress code!
Post # 8
- Wedding: October 2014 - Squaw Valley
ChrissyMary9515: I’d say you can totally wear your LBD! My bridesmaids wore black & I had no issue with anyone else wearing black as well. I had a couple of people ask before hand if it was ok & I told them they could of course wear black.
Post # 9
You can definitely wear an LBD. If you’re conscious about the BMs, just accessorize with a different colour – hot pink, coral, red, or nude – clutch and sandals/shoes and maybe a hair accessory as well.
Post # 10
ChrissyMary9515: I can tell you that I showed up to a wedding once wearing the exact same shade of blue as the bridesmaids. (I was attending as a guest, so I didn’t even know the bride and had no clue what the wedding colors were…the invitations were plain black & white) I was embarassed for about 2 seconds and then I got over it. I doubt anyone else even noticed…the my dress was short and structured, theirs were long and flowy. When the color is something as common as black, it’s probably even less of a deal. Wear what you want
Post # 11
How does the average guest know what color the bridesmaids are wearing? I think you should wear what you own and be comfortable in it. If you’re worried about matching the girls too much just accessorize with some bright colored jewelry. I’m sure you’ll look great!
Post # 12
Thanks guys! I figured a shorter (like knee-length, not hoochie) structured LBD versus long, formal Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses would probably be fine. You’re right, general guests don’t know the colors. I just happen to and figured since I do have that knowledge, maybe I should try to avoid it. I’m sure I won’t be the only one wearing black and I know I won’t be mistaken for a bridesmaid. But ever since being on the bee and reading some of these posts I’m so paranoid about making a wrong move at a wedding!!