- 4 years ago
- Wedding: February 2015
the good news is, I booked my wedding!
Bad news, the drama has already started!
i’m from up north, therfore our wedding is going to be there too, got a really good deal on the location and everyhting and it is all booked which is great,
but my OH’s half family is from down south, obviously this means they will have to travel up, stay over at the wedidng location/ hotels. I mean usually it wouldnt be a big deal, book a train, coach or whatever and just get there, our friends and other family memebrs have ALREADY sorted out transport and hotels!
however it is a very complicated sittuation, my oh’s family litteratly have like no money and there a HUGE family I think there will be 9 siblings and then there children on top of this.
The only option would be for US to pay for there acoomdation and transport..which lets to be fair cos of the ammount of them its going to be a lot of money, which doesnt seem logical or fair and to be honest it acttualy angers me to the fact we have to PAY for their transport/hotels when dont we already have enough to pay?
We already paying for my OH’s mother transport and hotel, and we dont have a clue if his father will even make it – again because lack of money.
my wedding is next year, yet this stuff has already upset me and stressed me out and had me in tears. Its upsetting to think a big portion of my OHs family wont be at his wedding, due to the fact they don’t work, have no money and generally cant be bothered.Its even more upsetting for me because I just find it all so shocking that someones dad or someones siblings wouldnt be at there wedding, my parents and my family have already booked trasport and booked hotels, which is just the complete oppisite to all this drama. also my side of the family are paying for the majority of the wedding, which again angers me as my OH’s family are not contributing one bit, as they have no money.
I’m just not sure what ot do for the best. We cant afford to pay for all of there stuff and I don’t know what we should have to, but it feels like we are expected to?
apart of me just feels like buying a couple of hotel rooms and a handful of coach tickets just so they attend and so its not heart breaking or emabrsing for my other half when half his family dont turn up and there are seats missing.
has anyone else experianced this kind of guest list/family drama before their wedding, just wondered if anyone had gone through similar or had any advice for me cos its on my mind all the time and kind of taking the joy away from any wedding planing really.
I guess what is even more heartbreaking that our really good friends have already booked hotels and sorted out everyhting even though its more than half a year away, Its tragic that his own FAMILY can’t do this.
However a few memebes of his family (who are pro active and who have money) have already booked hotels etc too, but its a big chunk who cant afford anything therefore are they just waiting untill we pay for everything for them?
- This topic was modified 4 years ago by Mrstobe26.