(Closed) Wedding Guests

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@worriedconfusedbride:  I would not invite them.  

 

But seeing as you mention the best man — How do you not have the best man’s address?  I assume as Best Man he’s a very close friend!  Could you hand deliver his?

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If they’re in the Bridal Party, I would just hand delivery it and be done with it since you are on a deadline and you need their services as Bridal Party members. If they’re just “regular” guests and they’re not forthright with their addresses (with no valid explanations), then I would just not invite them. You have enough on your plate as is and it’s ridiculous you have to wait on something as important as invites because a few people have hangups about sharing their addresses.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@worriedconfusedbride:  Yikes, sounds like a bigger problem is are they even planning on being in the wedding anymore?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It’s quite possible that the members in the bridal party don’t think they will receive an invitation (or need one).

There is someone on my guest list who I’ve been trying for nine months to get their address after they moved to their new place.  Anytime I talk to her in person she says, “Wait, you don’t have my address?”.  I’ve even told her that I need her address so I can send her an invitation.  If I haven’t been able to get it by the time I order invites, she and her husband won’t be receiving one.

I wouldn’t plan when I order invitations around when you can get all the addresses; you can order them whenever as long as you order enough.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@worriedconfusedbride:  Normally, I would say anyone who doesn’t care to respond with their address when asked, probably doesn’t want to come to the wedding and I wouldn’t invite them. However, because this is the best man, I feel like it’s a little different scenario. I’d stay away from texts/emails/FB messages and try to talk to them directly. I’d call again and be totally upfront–“are you in, or are you out? if you’re in, we need your address, otherwise let us know so we can find a new best man.” Maybe there is a cost issue about flying across the country to attend your wedding plus the other costs associated with being in and attending a wedding? 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@worriedconfusedbride:  Nope, definitely not a bridezilla. I think it is extremely weird that someone would refuse to disclose his/her address when you are friends/family. It’s not like you are a random person on the street. At the very least, they owe you an explanation, such as “I’m moving! Give me two weeks and I can get you my new address!”. Even if they didn’t want to attend, they should either tell you outright or wait for the invite to decline.

Good luck!

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@worriedconfusedbride:  Hmmm that seems like a seperate issue to discuss with them. You’re right in that if you’re not good friends with the Best Man’s wife she shouldn’t expect to be around before the wedding.  I’m sure her husband is a big boy who can dress himself!

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Maybe they are part of the Witness Protection Program?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@worriedconfusedbride:  If I’ve asked two or three times and they haven’t replied, I wouldn’t wait any longer.  Either assume they’re not interested and don’t invite them or hold an invitation in reserve in case they provide the address later. 

As for your Bridesmaid or Best Man, wth?  Have your Fiance call him and get address.

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