(Closed) Wedding guests give presents or cards? What is the norm?

posted 11 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
18627 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had a decent amount of people bringing gifts to the wedding or mailing them in advance.  There were only a few people that came and brought only a gift card or cash.

Post # 4
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I think on the East Coast it is almost exclusively cards/cash.  In CA it’s mostly presents.  My Fiance and his friends talk about the difference all the time!

Post # 6
722 posts
Busy bee

You don’t bring the gift to the wedding-you send it before through the registry. No one gives cash where I live.

Post # 7
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

In Chicago, it’s all cards/cash at the wedding, gifts at the shower. 

Post # 8
2083 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

From what I know, mostly cards/cash are given at the reception while the gifts are mainly for the shower. But we’ll have a gift table with the card box and room for anyone that brings in an actual gift. We had some gifts sent to us in advance off of our registry already as a wedding present.

Post # 9
2767 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

It was about 50/50 at our wedding.  In the midwest it is perfectly acceptable for people to bring gifts to the wedding.  There is usually an entire table set up where people set the presents.  

Post # 10
948 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We got most of our gifts in the mail/UPS prior to the wedding.  We got a lot of cards at the wedding, and maybe 20% was boxed gifts from local people.  We had our neighbors watch the house during the honeymoon and move things into the garage that came, but it was only about 4 boxes over the two weeks. 

Post # 11
327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m from Chicago, and have to disagree. Many people sends gifts for the wedding as well (I’ve already received some and my invites were sent out less than a week ago). I think it depends on the individual guest’s preference. I’ve never heard of cash being given in advance, though. I agree with gifts at a wedding being a hassle. My preference would be to either have them sent ahead or receive cash at the wedding – gifts get stolen from weddings! It happened to a friend of mine!

Post # 12
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think it totally depends on your circle of family and friends, and the area you are from.  I’ve only ever given physical gifts at weddings, but I rarely bring them to the wedding itself, usually mail before or after.

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