(Closed) Wedding Guests Panic!

posted 10 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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248 posts
Helper bee

Just send out your Save-The-Date Cards soon and relax.  Most people want to go to weddings of the people who are special in their lives.  There are always some who can’t make it and if you end up with less than anticipated at your venue, then use that to your advantage to do some special things you couldn’t have done with a larger crowd.  The planner at the venue can be helpful in making the space look "filled" even if ther are less people than the venue holds.  It will be fine.

Post # 4
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342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I totally understand what you’re going through, but try not to worry unless you KNOW that you have something to worry about!  Just think…..if most of your guests are able to attend, then you will have stressed over this for nothing!  🙂

If (worst case scenario) a lot of your guests aren’t able to attend, THEN you can worry about coming up with a solution.  Until then, try not to fret about it and just try to look forward to your awesome, upcoming wedding!!

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think it’s just one of those irrational fears we all get in the middle of wedding planning.  People will want to come, pretty soon you’ll have to tell people no on extra guests 🙂

 I have to admit, I’m slightly disappointed, from your title I was imagining wedding guests running around with their hands in the air, yelling.  You’ll be just fine.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’re just inviting 65 people, and about 50 are from out of town. The way I look at it, if only 30 can come to my wedding, think of all the extra one-on-one time you’ll have with that core group! But this is from someone who likes the idea of a small wedding, so maybe my perspective is different from yours.

If it is important to you to have big numbers and people can’t make it from out of town, do you have a B-list at all? I hate that term, but there are about 8 people from my current workplace I haven’t invited to my wedding but probably would if I were having a bigger wedding. Same with my last workplace- I have a bunch of old coworkers I was pretty close with that I’d invite as well.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Its definitely a big committment to attend a wedding somewhere else, but if your guests are pretty close to you, they will do their best to attend. Definitely send out your save-the-dates soon. And then maybe your family can start talking to the guests to see if people think they will be able to come.

Don’t worry– your wedding will be wonderful. Even if only half of your guests are able to make it, you will be surrounded by wonderful friends and family!

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I totally understand your feeling! I am getting married during a busy weekend, coming up soon and haven’t even finished the invites yet!

We didn’t do save the dates but are telling everyone that is invited to expect an invite either by word of mouth or Facebook private message.

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