So…this week in wedding planning, I’ve been completely stressing out about how to wear my hair for my wedding! I’ve always had a vision of long hair with beautiful curls.
The problem is that I have since cut my hair short, and have been rocking a VERY natural 4c TWA for the last 3 years. Since the engagememnt, I stopped cutting my hair so I would have a little more flexibility, but now I’m worried that with a sew in, I would be worried about sweating out my leave out all night. and that it wouldnt blend well, since it’s so short (about 3 in at the longest point, and tapered on the sides) I am not against a full sew-in, but I cant find a style without bangs that I like!
Question first. Do you have a stylist in mind whose sew in work you’ve seen? I ask bc my situation was similar. Chopped hair off to about an inch around January, hair was shoulder length last month for the wedding but I wanted longer. My stylist is amazing with my natural hair but the sew in…it did not turn out anything like I’d expected nor could I style my hair the way I wanted without it looking a hot mess bc of the way she created the braid pattern. Not to mention its a PITA as far as the itching! I’ll never get this again, ever. Partly my fault for assuming her skill level was consistent regardless of styling differences. But blending wasn’t a problem and no sweating out issues even under the sun taking photos on an 82 degree day.
mrsg2018 : I would honestly go for the tape-in extensions. I’ve tried sew-in, individual strands that clamp, and tape-in. The tape-in for me were far better than any other option. They blend much better with your natural hair, don’t leave the weird bumps where the tracks are sewn in, give you way more styling options and save you so much time applying and removing.
Honestly, I would dissuade you from getting a sew in with natural hair. You will be photographed all night, and you want to always be on point. If I were you, I would get a no leave out sew in or a frontal.
If you feel like you must have leave out, try the etae’ treatment. It is amazing. I got one two months ago on my 4c hair, and it’s still fairly straight. I don’t know if it’s match Brazilian hair straight, but straight. Try that, and think about getting some kinky straight hair. It’s much closer to matching the silk out texture of natural hair. Good luck girl!!!
This isn’t one of the options you’ve described, but how about a lace front? 4c hair with a silk press still might link up if you’re sweating, and like PP mentioned, if you don’t have a stylist you know & trust, you can be SOL. Some LFs are pretty inexpensive, and you can try out a few different styles before your wedding. Here’s one that retails for $30 that is a head full of curls:
if not a LF, then a closure will be your best bet.
Also, heat damage is real. I’d really hate to see your Afro get heat damaged by overzealous flat irons or curling irons. My rule of thumb is that if the desired style takes a lot of heat, dye or the like, fake it if you can.
heavenlyflower : I’ve been going to the same stylist for years. She used to do sew-ins for me about 10 years ago, but that was before my hair was natural and blending was way easier. She does great work but I’m so worried about the blending!
zoraneale : this is what I was thinking too….I wouldn’t mind doing a full sew in with no leave out but I am having a really hard time finding a style I like that doesn’t have bangs!
coffeecakez : how did I not think about a wig?! Must be wedding brain….lol thanks for the suggestion! I could definitely get one and have my stylist style it for me
coffeecakez : very true! I’ll likely cut all of my hair back off soon after the wedding anyway, but of course, I don’t want to worry about heat damage either. I’m thinking a full sew in with no leave out or a bomb wig are the way to go.
mrsg2018 : 🙂 In that case what about something simple like this? No bangs, middle part, tiny bit of leave out? Not that familiar with sew ins so idk if no leave out is possible with this. It was my first style choice and I kind of regret not sticking with it. Hair was nice just not how I wanted but thats life.
I have 4c hair as well and will be adding in kinky coarse or kinky straight clip ins that will blend easily if I want a straighter look or I will get kinky curly or kinky coarse clip ins. There are a lot of different textures these days so maybe you can look into using one that will allow for minimal heat.
These are looks I am interested in depending on the king of hair I will end up using.
She used kinky hair and had it blow dried out and then curled (I used to follow her on instagram as she is a makeup artist in my area)
Get a lace front! Pp is right. It will look fabulous and you won’t be stuck with a sew in. You can go right back into your hair care routine the very next day.
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