- 5 years ago
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
Ok, everyone, I need some help here.
My hairstylist is also a very good friend of mine. I have known her nearly 10 years and she has been doing my hair all that time. I travel 45 miles each way to go to her salon and we’ve become very close. I think she is one of the people most excited about my wedding–she cried when I told her I was engaged–I love her very much.
But, here’s the deal. Over the last year she has had significant health problems which has required 7 surgeries and numerous procedures, constant doctors’ appointments, and tests, etc. With all of this, her mental health has really taken a beating. She has become kind of manic and–while very excited and eager–her work has slipped and I’m just not as happy with it as I once was. Her cuts/color are still great, but I went in for a cut and trial the other day and… it was very mediocre. I really want my hair to be smooth, shiny, bouncy and full. It was fuzzy and dull. Granted it was 97 degrees and humid, but still.
I have paid the 50% deposit, plus the price of the trial. She’s was a master stylist with a prestegious Aveda salon when I met her, so she’s in no way a bargain (though she is giving me a friend discount). Recently, she has had to scale way back to due to her health problems, which has lead to financial problems for her, which I am very empathetic with but it is not helping with her anxiety/drepression/etc. She is not in a healthy spot. We have discussed this (the heath part) and I have told her more than once that I think therapy, etc. would be extrememly beneficial. (My Maid/Matron of Honor, a pshychologist, and also her client has emphasized this also).
I really am not sure what to do here. I am not sure she will be able to give me what I want on the wedding day (less than 2 months away!), let alone do the hair of 7 girls on her own on time and satisfactorily (which she wanted to do and offered). I also don’t want to hurt her feelings/put her in a bad spot/risk our friendship. HELP!!
TL;DR: My stylist is a good friend who is going through a rough time but I’m not happy with my trials and don’t think she is up to doing hair for me + bridal party.