Wedding hate

posted 3 months ago in Emotional
Post # 46
333 posts
Helper bee

throwawaybride :  I can see why your wedding inspired some jealousy. It looks like something out of a magazine, and you are absolutely stunning. It looks regal, and you look like a model.

I am sorry that you are dealing with such pettiness. I agree with the advice to shut down any negative talk about your wedding. For the small number of people who are behaving poorly, I am sure there are twice or more number of people is awe over how beautiful everything was. Surround youself with positive people, limit everyone else.

Post # 47
227 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

throwawaybride :  oops! Just saw the pictures, gorgeous. It’s an Indian wedding, usually they are “over the top” what did these people expect, try to forget about it and enjoy the memories and your marriage!!

Post # 48
179 posts
Blushing bee

Just adding to what PPs have said. My lord, you and your husband look AMAZING! What a beautiful couple you make. The wedding looks gorgeous–I’m sorry you’re dealing with these strange comments. Please know that, even from an empirical and unbiased internet perspective, your wedding looks beautiful and you and your hubby look in love and lovely.

(Additionally, I worked for an incredibly highfalutin wedding magazine for a few years, and yours looks like one we definitely would have featured!)

Post # 49
1152 posts
Bumble bee

You are both beautiful! And your husband looks very dapper, I expect any bride would be obsessed seeing their new husband looking like that haha… yes I’ve set high expectations now, I expect to be totally blown away by my fiancé in a suit on our wedding day 😀

Post # 50
446 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I hate the critiques of weddings. I was at one wedding where, during the ceremony, a guest next to me was snickering as she ridiculed the bride’s dress.

I do think  that we sometimes make the problem worse by inviting a lot of people we don’t feel a strong connection to and who don’t feel a strong connection to us. And many of them see it as nothing more than a big party to be compared to other parties they have attended. You described these people as acquaintances.

I am not criticizing you, as I think most of us do this to some extent. But I wonder if this problem would be reduced if we looked over our guest list and cut out a lot of people who are just acquaintances.



Post # 51
1983 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK

If it makes you feel better my good friend’s nearly ex husband scored us out of 10 for everything in our guest book! I’d never liked him anyway and he didn’t ever really like me. He’s a weird guy. My friend apologised for him. They are in the middle of an ugly divorce and whilst I’m sad for her and their kids she can do SO much better.

Would any of us really want a super honest critique of our weddings?

Anonymous1063 :  I agree that it can be because there are people there you aren’t strongly connected to but I’ve been to quite a few Indian weddings now and the smallest has been 200 guests. Not saying all Indian weddings are the same. My best friend is Indian and had a lot of people there who she’d never met.

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