(Closed) Wedding horror stories have me terrified :S

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
5295 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

1. that sounds delicious and perfect for mid-afternoon, can I come???

2. You are doing paper plates = major disaster that I posted about avoided. As long as you trust your mom’s friends to not get drunk and leave (they’d have issues if that’s a problem mid-afternoon), you should be fine πŸ™‚

3. To be honest, the DJ has been a big part of whether or not I enjoyed a wedding BUT I’ve never been to an afternoon reception. You could always ask a music-fan friend to put together a great playlist to play on an ipod and speakers. Again though, that time of day maybe people will be more interested in socializing.

4. wine=alcohol. And yes, it’s mid-afternoon, if people are pissed they can’t get drunk at that time, again, that’s their issue.

5. I’ve been to receptions in a VFW hall, barn, and fancy hotels. It’s the people and the atmosphere, not the location.

As long as you and your Fiance are happy and excited (and you’re making sure your guests will be fed and comfortable) that’s what matters.

Post # 4
630 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My wedding sounds a lot like yours. You need to remember that this day is about YOU AND YOUR Fiance and what you can spend is what you can spend. Having no debt is great — I wish we could have acheived that. I’m sure your guests will enjoy themselves and if they think you should have spent thousands of dollars on a ‘real’ dinner or more alcohol, so what? It’s YOUR WEDDING! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
4824 posts
Honey bee

I think you are providing enough food, wine is good, and I think it sounds fun!  You are not missing any major elements and since its late afternoon I think its exactly right!

Post # 7
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Nothing about your plans will land you in a “Wedding Horrors” thread.  You don’t need a heavy meal or tons of alcohol for a late-afternoon reception.  Light refreshments will be perfect.  And guests don’t really care about the venue as long as it’s climate controlled and they have a place to sit and space to move about. 

Post # 8
726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

As long as there is plenty to snack on and something to drink I think it will be just fine, You already sound like you care about your guests so im sure that will come across to them! Good luck πŸ™‚

Post # 9
677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My brothers wedding was in a VFW hall with yummy meatball sandwiches and a cash bar, the DJ was his friend with an IPOD. It was beautiful and very romantic and a lot of fun. He didnt even have a chocolate fountain which, to me, makes anything awesome. As long as the snacks taste good and there is plenty for everyone you will be fine.

Post # 10
1527 posts
Bumble bee

Your wedding sounds fine!! You sound like you have a ton of options. Just make sure that the groom’s cell phone is off during the ceremony (my FBIL’s phone SERIOUSLY went off in the MIDDLE of his ceremony). :p The reason that the only bad wedding I’ve been to was bad was because of the complete disregard for the sanctity of the event. What’s important is really you and your fiancé and your love and not the food or how much you spend on it. Your wedding sounds awesome, especially with a chocolate fountain. That’s really awesome! You have a lot of good ideas and you really care about everyone having a good time, and that will show and everyone will enjoy themselves πŸ™‚

Post # 11
2392 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think all the truly horrible wedding stories were caused by two things: couples who neglected to worry about their guests’ basic comforts (bathrooms, water, making them sit and watch other people eat, etc) and couples who shouldn’t have been getting married in the first place (hey, hindsight’s 20/20).  It sounds like you’re thinking about your guests so I really wouldn’t worry.


1) People generally don’t want a full dinner at 3 PM.  I think you’re fine, as long as you don’t serve cold cuts and sandwiches to your guests while eating steak and filet at the head table.  As long as you follow basic sanitary procedures, I say this is all good.

2) Will your fiance’s mom’s friends be drunk and go home halfway through serving the meal?  If not, you should be fine.

3) How are you setting up the music if there’s no DJ?  I DEFINITELY don’t think a DJ is a requirement, but if you are dancing a first dance and a couple of ceremonial dances, other people may want to dance as well.  You don’t need to spend any money on this, but try to take an afternoon or two to work on a playlist that would be fun for your guests to take a turn on the dance floor.  Also, appoint a friend or relative to be in charge of the iPod.  That’s really all you need.

4) Wine = fine.  While there are people who will complain about a dry wedding, there are also people out there who don’t think anyone should ever drink.  Don’t worry about pleasing everyone, just make sure your guests can stay hydrated.  I think a little wine or beer at an afternoon wedding is awesome but you definitely don’t need a full bar.  Just make sure whatever you do, there’s enough to go around so people don’t have to fight each other to get some.

5) Do the bathrooms work?  That seemed to be the real venue issue.  Other things (like a community center with a gun rack and bingo or something like that) made for funny stories but I think as long as you’re hospitable a detail like that won’t take away any from people’s enjoyment or memory of your event.  In fact, if I went to a wedding that was otherwise fun and thoughtful, I’d find something like that charming and fun.

Basically low budget = totally fine.  Informal = totally fine.  Not a dinner reception = totally fine.  What really makes a wedding a disaster wedding is a bride and groom who make it clear that their guests were an afterthought and not at all a priority. 

Post # 12
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@Entangled: What really makes a wedding a disaster wedding is a bride and groom who make it clear that their guests were an afterthought and not at all a priority.

This exactly.

Post # 13
399 posts
Helper bee

It all sounds lovely πŸ™‚ I wouldn’t worry about any of it – you are throwing a great party for your friends and family to celebrate your new marriage! Of course its always easy to tell someone else not to worry, when we’re alll worrying about things big & small for our weddings, right?

What’s address again…….??? πŸ˜‰ j/k

Post # 14
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

to be honest your wedding sounds lovely – the only thing i suggest is some ipod music playing not too loud for background noise but it sounds like a wedding i would like to attend

edit: oh, is there seating??? thats the one thing i would need because i hate standing around for hours

Post # 15
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011


1) As long as no one goes hungry and no one has to wait around for food, it’s fine!

2) This will also be fine. Just let everyone know ahead of time what you’d like them to do and when you’d like them to do it. If something goes wrong, don’t worry – odds are no one will notice.

3) I can relate to this – we had an iPod wedding and no dedicated dance space. About 12 of our friends had an incredible dance party in the back of our reception area, wearing ridiculous costumes and providing my best memories of the party. Just give people room to do what they want to do, and let the awesomeness prevail. 

4) Give everyone a couple of (alcoholic) drinks and enough of whatever else to keep their thirst away, and you are being a good host. 

5) Fair enough, but I recall some pretty atmospheric dances happening in our (ugly as hell) high school gym. You just gotta get resourceful – where there’s a will there’s a way to get whatever “look” you want.


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