Post # 1
I’m in the very early stages on wedding planning. As in, this is the first month of my engagement and we have a year and a half. I have throwing idea around to my BFF and mom. My Fi and I have talked a lot about the wedding already and have a pretty good idea of what we are wanting. Basically…the less money spent, the better. We have tentatively decided on not having a dinner, or full buffett or anything, but more like mostly desserts, or hor d’oeurves, or different stations, like a pasta station, or ataco station, something like that. Every time I mention something like that, my mom and BFF always say something like, “Yeah thats sounds good. Or you could call you SIL and get the number of the caterer who did her wedding. It was a full dinner and it was decently priced!” or, “Yeah, but the wedding is far enough away that you still have time to change your mind.” I always thought I had awesome family and friends who wouldn’t try and push me in a direction they like more, or turn me into a bridezilla, or what have you. But it’s kind of already bad, and like I said, this is the first month of planning! Should I completely tune them out, or listen because outside perspectives and ideas are always good? Any experience with this? I don’t want to style my wedding to suit everyone else when it’s different from my idea…
Post # 3
Stop it now. Tell them how you feel and that they have to accept it, or tune them out. I was vague in the beginning of my wedding planning and my dad sort of just went along and decided a lot of things. All because he cares about me, but he did it out of what he think is best – not what I think is best. Now, I might be able to reverse some of his decisions, but it’s time consuming and stressful. Don’t do that, take control of your wedding. If they want to plan a party, have them host one for themselves!
Post # 4
It seems like you have a strong sense of self and a good idea about what you like and what is you, which is wonderful! As you said, remember it is only the first month of planning! While the general idea of what you envision for your wedding surely won’t change, what you see and hear and want to do will, so try to keep somewhat of an open mind! I too have a very strong sense of what I like, but when I went through the planning process, especially in the beginning, my vision often shifted and changed. There is SO much inspiration out there! So, don’t get caught up too much in your mother or Maid/Matron of Honor wedding ideas but at least hear what they have to say and try to be sweet and polite since they love you and you love them! And most of all, remember to share your ideas with them! Your excitement is sure to get them excited along with you.