(Closed) Wedding in 11 days and BM doesnt have dress

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

🙁 That’s a tough one!

I’d say it’s best to be really straight forward with her – but still make it a question, not an accusation.

Just let her know the programs are being printed, and you’ve noticed that she’s been having trouble getting the dress (is it financial?) and want to know if she needs an ‘out’ before they get printed.

Post # 4
21 posts

I think being sincere and direct. And offer to help.

Post # 5
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh boy.  Both posters had great advice before me…I can just offer empathy to you!

Post # 6
296 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Are all of the dresses supposed to be the same or are they just supposed to be a certain color?  Is it possible for you or someone to lend her a dress that would work?

Post # 7
1882 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I just wouldn’t say anything. if she shows up she shows up. you have lots of other things to worry about.

Post # 8
431 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Are you saying she can’t be in your wedding without a dress?  I understand your frustration (especially if all of the BMs are wearing identical dresses), but seriously consider if you want to kick what in all probability is a good friend out of your wedding b/c of a dress.  Playing the devil’s advocate-maybe she’s short on time or money??  Either way, I would frankly discuss what she plans to do on the day of your wedding, b/c while I don’t think you should boot her, she is being irresponsible by not buying the dress or by not telling you she’s too busy/broke to do so.  Hopefully it’s not too late!  Here’s a good one (true story-my sister, a police dispatcher, took the call):

“I just got a call (I’m at work-7:00 a.m. on Sunday morning), and it was a girl stating she had a situation a needed some advice. She is the maid of honor in a wedding today and she forgot to pick up her dress at the cleaners yesterday and today they are closed! Talk about a nightmare. Well, lucky for her I got a hold of the owner and he is going to go to the store and meet her there to give her the dress. (Nothing like waiting until the last minute!). The owner was pretty funny, he kept saying she was supposed to pick it up yesterday-‘Oh some customer, I just don’t know!'”

Post # 9
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

A good friend who also is a bridesmaid doesn’t forget to order the dress! Or, if she does, she lets you know without you having to ask.

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