Post # 1
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Sugar bee
Hey Bees<3
So my wedding is in 3 days and I know I should be beaming and overwhelmed with excitement but I am not. This whole wedding planning process has been horrible for me. So much drama with family and bridesmaids. No one wanting to throw me any showers or parties. My mother is unable to attend the wedding due to money. Its just been a nightmare. And all I can think about is how I cannot wait until this is over!!!! If I could skip the wedding day and just be done with it, I would! All I am thinking about is what is going to go wrong at the wedding and what drama will come out. I truly don;t want to feel like this, I just can’t help it. This is my last day at work and I am just sitting here crying. Maybe this is normal but bees, can you help me by letting me know what I can do to be excited? I know this is about Fiance and I and he is so excited! I feel terrible. I want to be happy and excited and impatient, but I just can’t. Advice?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
You need to get you a bottle of Skinnygirl Margarita and go sit in the bath!
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
Aww, I’m so sorry! But just think about how gorgeous you’re going to be in your dress! And are you guys taking a honeymoon? That’s definitely something to be excited about! I would try ordering a pizza in and chilling out on the couch with your Fiance. Maybe watch “The Hangover” or something funny. You’re probably just too stressed to be excited.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
@jo.lee: Thanks girl. I jsut think I am so overwhelmed with stress that it is taking over the excitement
Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
I had a horrible experience with my family that sucked a lot of the joy/excitement out of the process. For me, I had to focus on Fiance and the commitment I was going to make. Do you have any friends that are excited and/or supportive? Focus on THOSE people and forget about the others.
I didn’t really feel bridal or super excited until the day of the wedding (when I was getting ready, etc.). And even then – it was all self-induced (since everyone was pretty much just concerned about themselves).
My advice is to have low expectations from other people and just focus on yourself and Fiance. Especially on the wedding day: all that matters is the two of you.
I was afraid at what antics would happen on my wedding day – and it was actually hilarious. Everyone behaved and had a wonderful time. It was so hilariously so, that I kept thinking: WHO ARE THESE PEOPLE? And what happened to those people who made my life a nightmare these past months?
I hope you have a similar experience and it’s nothing but positive thoughts!!
Don’t cheat yourself our of the joy of your wedding day just because other people haven’t been supportive. This is YOUR WEDDING DAY – enjoy it for all it’s worth!!!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
Aww, I’m sorry you’re feeling like that. But I have to tell you that after reading your post title, I was relieved to find out why you aren’t excited. All your issues revolve around family members and BMs. What I was dreading to see was something about your Fiance or having second thoughts. But happily, that’s not the case.
At the end of the day, you will be married to the man you love. All this other stuff won’t matter. That’s the important thing.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Thank you so much. It is nice to know that I am not the only one who went through so much.
Post # 10
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Honey bee
I’m happy and excited and impatient, but I still can’t wait for it to be over.
I know it will be great, but I’m SO SO SO looking forward to SUNDAY!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
YES! Have take out, a couple drinks and just have a few hours with you and Fiance, no wedding talk.
Get relaxed and then you will start to be excited!
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
First of all, take a big deep breath and let it out.
Second, find someone you can trust and kindly ask them them to handle any drama should it arise on your wedding day.
Have yourself another deep breath.
Do something tomorrow that’s just for you. If that means treating yourself to a massage, or sitting in the tub by candlelight listening to music, or going for a long walk, do it. Focus on one thing, tangible or intangible, that is completely unrelated to your wedding, hold your focus, and let yourself relax.
Take a moment whenever you can in the next three days to repeat this exercise in focus and relaxation, even if it’s just for a couple of minutes at a time. It should help you feel a bit more grounded.
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@Tswife4ever: I don’t think I have any really good advice, but I’m so sorry you feel this way 🙁 I can understand drama and the anxiety – maybe try to focus on the good of the day and not dwell on what could possibly go wrong.
Think about how beautiful you’ll be in your dress, your FI’s face when he sees you, dancing together, and getting to be with people who are happy for you.
At the end of the day you will be a married woman and no one can take that away from you.
I hope you feel better and have a wonderful wedding day!
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
@Tswife4ever: I completely understand how you feel, and I’m telling you it’s normal. Especially, if the planning has been nothing but drama/stress. But, I promise you the morning of all the stress will melt away and you’ll be overwhelmed with a new feeling; a feeling that I can’t quite explain because it full of pure awesomeness hahaha! Hang in there
