(Closed) Wedding In A Year: Friends Planning Summer Baby

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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ct1984 :  I think your Fiance is just feeling slighted because, by your own admission, these other women are “clicky” and your Fiance feels out of place. Coupled with one of these women telling you and/or your Fiance that she already isn’t going to attend a wedding that is next year, I see where your Fiance is coming from. This has less to do with her worrying about the “thunder” of your wedding being stolen and more to do with that she’s probably insecure because of how these women already treat her. If I were her, I would probably think something alone the lines of, “Of course you would all be trying to have a baby around my wedding.” It’s an irrational wedding-planning thought and OBVIOUSLY neither I nor your Fiance think anyone can control when anyone else has a baby, but seeing as these women already leave her out and make her feel unwelcome, this probably just feels like another slight. Personally, I couldn’t be friends with someone who (or who’s partner) made my partner feel unwelcome, but that’s just me.

I think you should just assure your Fiance that you aren’t worried about future babies from these women. They can plan all they want, but even they can’t decide when they’re going to get pregnant. I would urge her not to worry about this or feel bad about it. There’s so many other things to look forward to and the procreation of the groomsman’s wives is not one of them. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Pregnancy shouldn’t be a reason to not attend a wedding, I find that odd. I had two very close friends in this situation for my wedding. One of them had just had a baby and the other was 7 months pregnant. Both came. If your friends are truly good friends, and barring some kind of a medical reason why their wives would not be able to attend, I would think they’d be there. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee

My sister in law came to my wedding on October 8th and had her baby on the 19th. Pregnancy is different for everyone so I wouldn’t stress about it until it gets closer to the wedding, especially since they aren’t even pregnant yet.

Post # 20
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, if I were you I’d be more offended that my friend’s wives are clicky and not inclusive rather than offended they’re trying ot have a baby around my wedding.

 

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Maid/Matron of Honor just announced that she’s pregnant. And I guess she’s already planning on not going to the bachelorette..which, she should be throwing? So since I’m not in the loop on the bach plans, I don’t know whether she’s going to pass it off on one of my bridesmaids to plan and just not be involved in that at all,etc. Basically, my point is that you can’t control everything and someone trying to expand their family will always come above someone else’s wedding. However, I think it’d be extremely bad luck if their due dates fell so close to your date that neither the husband nor wife would even attend the wedding at all. Until that time comes, keep calm and keep planning your day!

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