(Closed) Wedding in about 3 weeks – Still don't love my dress. I'm heartbroken.

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Helper bee

Go to a bridal store and buy one off the rack if your budget allows. Or order one off Tradesy or Davids Bridal if it’ll come in in time. You can get it altered in time- crazier things have happened!

 

edited: I just saw that you found a pic of yourself in the dress you love. Ask if you can buy that sample off the rack at the shop!

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  silverandgold.
Post # 3
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Helper bee

Specifically, theres a company who sells dresses through Tradesy and Facebook called Last Minute Bride. They sell a lot of nice samples. Since theyre name includes the words “last minute,” they can pro help you out!

Post # 4
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Worker bee

Can you afford to buy another one?

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Do you have any discount bridal places by you? We have an “off the rack” type place, where you literally buy a dress off the rack (samples, returns, etc.) and have it altered. That can absolutely be done in 3 weeks. I truly believe though, that you won’t be dwelling on your dress the day of. It feels like everything right now, but once you’re walking down the aisle, getting married will feel like everything. Best of luck to you!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

3 weeks could still be enough time to buy a sample or find a used dress. Once you secure one, put yours up for sale; I’m sure you can get some cash back from that.

Maybe not being super attached to your dress could let you do some fun things with it – a trash the dress shoot, or turn it into something.

I know it’s stressful, but try to focus on the fact that you’re marrying your SO. You could wear a burlap bag and you’d still be man and wife, right? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 7
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Helper bee

You only get married once (hopefully!). So make sure it’s right.

If you can scrape the money together, go dress shopping again and buy what you want off the rack.

It’s possible, as I got my wedding dress a week before my wedding day.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Definitely agree with pps. There’s still time to find an alternative – perhaps on more of a budget than your first one but if you feel better in it, you’ll glow! 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

If you are willing, there is still time. I ordered my sample sale dress from Davids online and got it in 10 days- you could even see if you could do a rush order. See if your seamstress is willing to rush alterations, or find someone who is.

If this is going to make your day better and your stress level go down then jump on it and get a new one— I would suggest just doing it though and not including any of the people who previously talked you into your current dress. Go alone and try some on it you have to, you know what you are looking for. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee

You can’t get married in a dress you hate!  You’ve made one mistake now don’t comopund it.  Follow all the suggestions you’ve been given by other bees and pull out all stops to get the right sillouette dress of your dreams.  You have a whole hive of bees behind you! …then post a picture of yourself on this forum looking relieved and happy in the right dress.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

I agree with some others here and do a quick search to see if there’s a dress you can buy off the rack or if there’s a website that can ship one to you quick enough. It might not be your ultimate dream dress, but you can certainly find one in the shape that you always wanted and I think that will make you feel WORLDS better. Modcloth has some cute, inexpensive A-line gowns that work beautifully as wedding dresses if you don’t mind them being tea length, and I know some bees have even had luck with some beautiful dresses from Amazon! 3 weeks is enough time and when it’s all done and over you can sell your old dress ๐Ÿ™‚ In this situation I think it’s definitely worth it to try to squeeze out a couple hundred bucks and recoup them later. 

Some suggestions for under $200:

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/breathtaking-belle-dress-in-cloud

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/sparkling-celebration-dress

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/gilded-grace-dress-in-champagne

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/all-roads-lead-to-romance-dress

http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/ethereal-girl-dress

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 9 months ago by  TwinkleBoss.
Post # 12
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Newbee

Why not rush order a tulle skirt to go over your current dress? Just in case you don’t have the money to buy an entirely new dress and you happen to at least like the bodice. 

Here are a few etsy listings I have come across. 

https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/208749701/wedding-tulle-skirt-adult-tutu-extra?ref=favs_view_8

https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/150944323/ivory-tulle-wedding-skirt-floor?ref=favs_view_7

https://www.etsy.com/ca/listing/221169343/romantic-ivory-a-line-wedding-dress-with?ref=favs_view_4

Don’t despair, it’s not too late!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I know exactly how you are feeling. I felt the same way and let someone else talk me into a dress I knew I didn’t love. Luckily I bought it 2 years before my wedding and still had plenty of time. After trying to like it for 9 months, I listed it for sale and bought a new one. My new one should be in soon and I could not be more relieved. Once I bought the new one, I knew that I did it for ME and noone else. I could not be happier with my choice! I have never once doubted my new dress, even after hundreds of bees told me they liked my old one better. I don’t give a shit what anyone says about it, because I love it! If at all possible, try to buy a preowned or sample of the dress you love! You will have a weight lifted off your shoulders, I promise! It’s so worth it!!

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