Post # 1
Okay so I have a question. Our wedding was in June and I have yet to send out thank you cards. I intended to but life has gotten in the way. I know there isn’t really an excuse for it but we have been unbelievably busy since the wedding (hubby got a new job and we had to relocate literally all the way across the country – New England to SoCal – moved into a new apartment, started the house hunt, and are in the process of purchasing our first house) so having time to sit down, design, and write 150 thank you cards was unrealistic. I know I’ve heard before that you have up to a year to send thank you cards but am wondering if it will just be awkward if I send them now. I am thinking about doing a card with a picture from the wedding and in front of our new house once we get moved in and kind of combine the two. Is that weird?
So I guess I have a two-part question.
Should I still send them out even though it’s been 6 months?
If yes, should I explain what’s been going on in our lives so they get the idea that it’s been insanely hectic?
Thanks bees! Please don’t be too harsh, I’m already hanging my head in shame…haha
Post # 3
@SoCalLove: I’d still do it. Better than people think you are tardy than just totally rude to never send them! We received one a year after the wedding recently and it was not even a handwritten personalised one, just a photo of them at the wedding with some generic typing on it – lol. Not sure what their excuse was.
Post # 4
You should definitely still send them.
I don’t know about etiquette stating you have a year to send thank-yous, but we were in the same boat as you. Married in June, moved to a different country, life got busy, we didn’t get our photos back until late November, but by February I had finally sent them out. I didn’t really bother explaining, everyone who came to the wedding knew we were busy.
As the saying goes, better late than never!
Post # 5
Definitely send them – but i would not inlcude anything about being insanely busy as it might come across as an excuse 🙂
Post # 7
Thanks ladies! Another question. Any ideas on how to word it as most people gave money? I know people usually like to know where they gift went so what about something like…
Thank you so much for your gift of money. It has been so helpful in the process of moving and buying our first home.
What else?? Haha, this is hard.
Post # 8
Yes, still send them. Other people have busy lives too but they took the time to get you a gift/card/money, so take the time to say thanks.
As for wording for cash gifts something along the lines of “Thank you so much for your generous gift! The money you gave us was very helpful and because of your gift we were able to…..”
Post # 9
@SoCalLove: I personally had no idea until I joined WB two years ago that brides do NOT have up to a year to send T/Y notes. So, even though this very popular belief technically is incorrect, many people are still operating under that impression. You definitely should still send your notes, even if it ends up having to take several more weeks or months until you are able to finally finish all of them.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t say … thank you for your gift of money…
I’d say something like, I’m so sorry to be getting this thank you note out so late, but, as you know we moved across the country. Your considerate gift will be used to help purchase our new home.
We got a lot of GC and money and I just said thank you for contribution to updating the house we bought that is older than we are.
Post # 11
We told every person we put the money towards the downpayment on a house. (If you have a house, you could say furniture/decorating/car/whatever)
Post # 12
@SoCalLove: yes. please take the time to send a thank you. your guests took the time to come to your wedding so it’s the least you can do. just sit down and write minimum 10 a day until you are done. have your dh write ones to his family and friends at the same time.
do not mention anything about being too busy to write one, that’s just an excuse.
as for the monetary gifts, just thank them for their generous gift and that you will be using it for “such and such” in your new house.
the thank yous don’t have to be too long. just a few lines thanking them for sharing your special day with you, thanking them for the give (mention what it was) and how you look forward to using it or something.
google wedding thank you examples if you get stuck.
Post # 13
@SoCalLove: I would still write them and explain the move and the house and BONUS you can tell all money gift givers thats what their money went to!
Post # 14
I would still write them.
My wedding on at the end of July & I didn’t send the thank-yous until mid-November. I felt bad about it taking so long, but I knew people really appreciated it late rather than never.
Post # 15
You should definitely still send them. I’m sure people understand life is hectic, but I’d rather receive a thank you after 6 or 7 months than never
Post # 16
Yes send them ASAP. no don’t provide an explanation, those that know you know what you’re up to or can ask. Make sure you hand write a message especially this late.
My BFF sent hers the week before her one year anniversary. Now THATS a thank you faux pas lol
ETA: on how to thank for money, I said thank you for your generous gift, we have set it aside to save up for x large purchase (or whatever nice thing you did or will do with it)