Post # 16
tashanicole12: i have no idea how that would work lol, hopefully someone who has done this will chime in 🙂
But time wise, from what i understand it may be easier to do find someone who is already ordained.
Regardless, this definetley needs to be at the top of your to do list 🙂
Post # 17
tashanicole12: we decided to get married just after Christmas last year, and set the date for next weekend (!) so 5 months. It’s definitely possible. You need to sort the legal bit/ give notice soon- we had to wait 11 weeks for an appointment to do that, so get that arranged NOW!
like you, I’m decorating myself etc. Try to arrange hire asap, and pick colours, order flowers etc. You can make favours, centrepieces etc right up to the day, but you may need to get an idea what you need and start shopping around now, especially if ordering on line (up to 28 day delivery times!)
good luck, you’ll be fine!
Post # 18
tashanicole12: Totally doable, but get on it. 🙂
First, figure out your state laws for marriage licenses–they are all different and some have a waiting period between the time you apply…and the time you can actually file. Ours has a 3 day waiting period.
Second, worst case scenario you can have a family member or friend perform the ceremony and you file the papers in the courthouse just before or after the wedding. It’s ok if they are not ordained, if you understand your ceremony will be symbolic and not legally binding. You need to get your paper ducks in a row for the legally binding part.
Third…wedding party attire. David’s Bridal, quick ship options. My girls got their dresses 2 weeks after they ordered them. Do I suggest waiting until last minute? NO way…the colors and sizes you want may not be a quick ship option. But I mention this because other designer dresses take several months from the order date.
Fourth..the chairs, tables, etc. Ask your venue for their recommended vendors. I bet they have a list of vendors who have provided all of these services at your venue. This includes catering, tables, chairs, linens, etc.
Fifth—google and Pinterest for Decor. Considering you’re a bit of a procrastinator (not judging!! LOL) I would find something on the less complex side. It took me forever to do our flowers…granted I am picky but it took me several trial and error attempts to get them just right. You’ll need to budget time for “figuring out how to make what you want”….and then “actually making however many you want/need for your tables”.
Then relax and enjoy the final months until your wedding. You don’t want to extend the stress. Once it’s done,….it feels so good.
Post # 19
Totally start planning in full force now…. I started planning 8 months ago and I am still planning things today, with 3 months left to go lol It goes very fast!
Post # 20
You can do it! My advice is, do everything NOW lol. Have you already done these things (in no particular order):
Chosen Your Wedding Party (if so, they need to know attire, rehearsal info, day of timeline)
Day of Wedding Timeline
Hotel Blocks (if applicable)
Florals (Bouquets, Corsages, Boutonnieres)
Groom Attire (Suit/Tux, Shirt, Tie, Shoes, Belt, Socks, Watch?)
Bride Attire (Veil, Jewelry, Shoes)
Nail Salon Appointment
And then get the decor and rentals all squared away, obviously 🙂
Post # 21
tashanicole12: Information is your friend!! Once you know what you need it will be easy to take things step by step and you won’t need to procrastinate. If you are procrasting due to cost, or concern about cost, think of alternatives. Can you borrow what you need from family/friends? About how many people are you expecting? (Do you know the # of each item you need?)
1. Look up what Washing State requirements for marriage licenses. They may have officiant information on that site.
2, Find out where you can get tables & chairs. Do you or family members belong to any organizations that you can borrow them from? If not call a local party supply rental place. Look up phone # and call!! If things are too expensive to rent, check out DollarTree online.
3. What do you want for decorations and flowers?
4. For DIY, what items do you need?
FWIW- I planned and got married within 4 months. You can do it. Check these off as you do them! Checking them off will make you feel great, and give you power to move on. At least it does for me. Anything else to be done, figure out??
Post # 22
tashanicole12: I would start having your friend start the process now if you want them to marry you. My best friend had a good friend marry them in October. He had to do the process online to become ordained, recieve his certificate from that, and then apply to the state to become a registered officiant to be able to legally marry them. They too are procrastinators and he waited until 2 weeks before the wedding to send in his info to the state. He literally recieved conformation the DAY before the wedding! We thought they were going to have to go to the court house to get legally married because their wedding was almost not legal! It’s not a hard or extremely long process, but definitely start it now to be safe and save yourself the stress!
Post # 23
tashanicole12: Four months is basically forever in my world. It’s more than enough time to do everything you listed aside from the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and Groomsmen suits, and even that is doable if you get on it right away. Your bridal party may need to pay rush fees in order to have everything arrive in time for alterations, which I’m sure you’ll take care of because it was your fault for procrastinating, but other than that you should be ok. I would also make finding an officiant a priority, but the rest (which all sounds like rentals) you could do a couple months ahead of time and you’d be fine.
Post # 24
Wow thanks a ton everyone! I’m going to start a list and get it all started ASAP. Luckily our wedding is a simple rustic wedding so we don’t have a ton of money we have to dump into it or super duper fancy stuff to rush and get. We are definitely on a strict budget. It also helps that we’re not spending like 30 grand on our wedding haha. We aren’t having catering, or a DJ, or an open bar (his parents are SUPER conservative, I had to practically beg to at least have a mimosa bar lol). But I think at this point, my main concern should be someone to marry us! Haha.
Post # 25
tashanicole12: we asked my friend to marry us and she went online and was ordained the next day. But, in our state w wasn’t required to register with the state. The being ordained online part is super quick. In my state, we needed to apply for our wedding license within 30 days of the wedding so you may not be able to do that now. but, if a friend is officiating- where are you getting the ceremony? You need to be clear with your officiant if you expect/want them to do it or whether you want to write it yourself.
Post # 26
definitely get the rentals and officiant done next. You are gettig married in one of the most popular months to get married. Competition is real! Definitely get those things done next and then worry about all your DIY.