Post # 1
Hi fellow bees,
So we’ve just got back from the south of France, finalising some of our wedding plans for later this year and we’re a little bit stuck about who to invite to stay in the chateau with us.
My parents are separated and it will be awkward having them both together (they don’t really speak) with respective partners, also my partners family are lovely but all rather old. We’re thinking of finding nearby accommodation for the family and inviting our friends to stay in the actual chateau.
We have the venue all weekend and will be dining out on the Friday, wedding Saturday and then a pool party/bbq in the Sunday so will have plenty of time to see everyone, its sooo hard to know what to do!
Does this seem really selfish?
Post # 2
Are you paying for the wedding or are they? If they are involved financially, it would be rude not to invite them. Even if they aren’t, it would still be rude to not talk to them first. Just offer that they may stay there and just be honest that you understand if it would be awkward or too difficult to stay there for the older folks and go from there.
Post # 3
I think that sounds totally reasonable – especially if your collective parents are going to be uncomfortable and or want a quiet place to retreat. Of course, have the conversation with them to ensure your assumed feelings are correct, but it’s your wedding- you should enjoy the weekend/day. Sounds like fun!
Post # 4
It doesn’t sound hard at all. In fact, it sounds like you have come up with a perfect plan.
Post # 5
Thanks for the advice, I guess its just sometimes good to write it down and hear others comment
Thier not contributing financially, we are of course mindful that everyone has to pay out for flights etc but nevertheless I guess it seems fair and resonable.
We’ve been talking through things this evening and i think we’ll just have the softly softly conversation with eveyone in advance and gauge the reaction, i’m sure it will be ok.
Post # 6
I just am wondering why being ‘rather old’ precludes them from being invited to stay at the chateau. If seriously old and infirm l assume it’s because of difficulty of access, but otherwise….? janeh9 :
Post # 7
Just curious- what did you decide about getting the “official” marriage certificate? I know laws in France are tough regarding this.