Post # 1
My wedding is in two days and I have guest telling me this week that they are not attending the wedding. Honestly I am furious because my fiance and I are paying for everything and we could have saved money on the food, drinks, tables, chairs, etc. I sent out save the dates a year ago and then gave guests a month and a half to send back the rsvps. I could understand if it was a emergency, but for one guest he is going househunting with his girlfriend, and this has to be done on a day you already had plans because! I just think its disrespectful to make plans and rsvp to something where you have a meal and seat reserved for you and then back out at the last minute.
Post # 3
I feel like a lot of people or guests don’t think about how much money brides and grooms spend on their wedding to invite that person. I told one of my friends after the food, alcohol, venue, tables and chairs it costs over $100 for evert person and they were blown away. UGH some people
Post # 4
@Future_Mrs.H: It just really frustrates me. I had to vent, thanks for listening : )
Post # 5
I agree. I feel like a lot of ppl over look that the bride and groom are shelling outma lot of cash so that they can have dinner and a show. It is 100% rude I felt the way for my wedding.
Post # 6
@Kimmy83: I understand. I had 187 people RSVP to the wedding and only at 135 show up to the wedding and reception.
Yeah, we lost $2300 over that. I was not happy at the time. Now I’m just glad those who cared enough made it!
Post # 7
i find that very rude to rsvp yes and not show up or cancel last minute. i understand if there is an emergency but house hunting is not one of them.
luckily, at my wedding, everyone that rsvp’d yes, showed.
Post # 8
Someone actually admitted to you that they are not attending your wedding so that they can go househunting?? Wow, that’s a new low. I’d scratch those people from your friend list, and I don’t mean the one on Facebook!
Post # 9
@Kimmy83: I had the same problem with my guests. In fact, I saw a few people attend the ceremony but not show up to the reception. (WTH!) We had a table completely empty! UGH. I swear, people don’t realize how rude and inconsiderate it is until they’re the ones doing the wedding planning.
Post # 10
Ugh I hope this doesn’t happen to me. You guys are right though, people do not understand how much it costs to put on a wedding and how much money is actually being thrown away if they do not show up.
Post # 11
What is even worse is when married couples do the same thing! It’s like, “don’t you at least remember what this was like and how much money you wasted because of rude guests like yourself!”
I think it can be a bit more forgivable if it’s from someone who truly has no clue, from never being married or even in a wedding party.
Post # 12
@Kimmy83: That’s really rude, I’m sorry people are doing this to you! I’m so scared this will happen to me too, unfortunately it seems like a common thing : ( Hang in there and don’t let it get you down!
@LuvMySailor: 52 no-shows & $2300?!? I would be soooo mad! You have a great attitude about it, but DAYUM.
Post # 13
Dang that sucks! Househunting?! Ruuuude! Hang in there chica, you’re almost married and it’ll all be worth it. Definitely post pics afterwards and have an amazing, blissful day!
Post # 14
Think about this… they are boyfriend and girlfriend going househunting? So they may plan on getting married sooner or later? Let them see how they like it when they invite you and you say at the last minute “You know I have to wash my hair that day, can’t come, so sorry!”
Post # 15
This is so freaky because the ONE couple that were total douche bags and let us down (one was IN the wedding too) at the last minute with a whole bunch of different lame excuses (which don’t cut it with me, when they knew for a whole year, plus we checked several times with them, including a few days before the guy texted us to change his mind) leaving us to have to alter EVERYTHING plus pay for their empty seats/meals which could have gone to someone else AND the girlfriend threw a tantrum about my wedding on twitter (called it not important etc)…well the girl in that couple uses nearly the exact same screen name as you OP – same name and year of birth. Lol! Was thinking “surely not” when I saw this.
I’m still deciding how to handle it. Right now I’m not in the mood to talk to either of them. I’m not sure whether I want to keep either friendship going now or not. Let us know what you decide to do, I will be following this topic for advice!
Post # 16
That is very tacky of your guests for sure!