Post # 1
Okay. I love planning my wedding. I am so glad I found these boards! You bees are wonderful to bounce ideas off of and give so much appreciated advice. So, yay weddingbee!
But–has anyone noticed that as you plan, you say the word "wedding" and the price instantly goes up by 10%?!?!?!? or more!!!
Has anyone noticed that wedding trends in magazines just get you to buy more stuff or you’re being rude and not following etiquette? For example, favors and welcome baskets (which I am still doing but…) aren’t a part of the traditional wedding, but rather something that we feel we MUST spend money on?
There are so many traps that we must avoid…
But gosh I am having fun doing this.
Anyone else see conspiracies in the biz?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
For me, the free meal and drinks is favor enough to thank people for coming to my wedding! I doubt anyone will notice the lack of favors, and if they do notice, I doubt I will care.
Post # 4
It was interesting.. I recently read something that said this is actually a great time to get married because brides and grooms can just claim the failing economy for shaving off certain details (live band, extravagant floral arrangements, etc.)
That still dosn’t remove the stress from all of the outside pressure of wedding websites/magazines 🙁
Post # 5
We’re donating to some of our favorite charities in lieu of favors. It was very important to us to do something really good for the world while we’re throwing this insanely big party. I understand why prices go up for weddings… After all brides hold their vendors to a very high standard (rightly so) and vendors can charge those prices because we’ll pay it.
The more DIY we do, hopefully prices will be better controlled. If we don’t pay it, they can’t charge it!
Post # 6
I remember seeing on one venue’s website separate price listings for weddings and non-weddings! I know a gal who had her wedding at a park or something like that, and when reserving it said it was just a party (or family reunion or something), and then when they found out it was a wedding they weren’t too thrilled cause they charged more for weddings.
I happen to also be a professional musician, and I charge the same flat rate, wedding or party or whatever it is. Some musicians have a package rate for ceremonies and receptions.
I always thought if the ceremony is at a different site than the reception, you could always call the reception an ‘anniversary party’. If anyone questions you the day of, you can say "we’re celebrating our one-hour anniversary". Of course that wouldn’t work if you were doing the full cocktail-hour-sit-down-dinner-dancing-dj-or-band-reception. That would be a liiiiitle bit obvious when booking the place.
Post # 7
when we were looking at resturants to host a reception i would first enquire about a 4hr dinner & drinks and would get quoted a value per person. when i responded great, this is for our wedding dinner i would be told ‘oh, theres different pricing for weddings" and then the value would jump from say $90pp to $130pp in the one breath
i could never ever get a reasonable response as to why. we werent going to do the big white dress, wedding party, speeches thing. i was happy for the same plain white table cloths and no extra decorations as it was just going to be a big sit down meal for family and friends, how is that any different from me booking for a workplace function meal?
and i cant believe what some women pay for their dresses….. no wonder the wedding industry is a multi billion dollar industry