Post # 1
Hi, I’m a bride-to-be myself but I was just invited to a wedding where the invitation is asking for a $100 contribution per guest. I’ve never seen this before. Do you think it’s expected that, in addition to this contribution, that we also give a gift? I would never put this on my wedding invitations.
Post # 3
That would be a hard pass for me.
Post # 4
Tacky n gross charging admission!. A hard no from me, I would send an empty congrats card…
Post # 5
Is this wedding in Quebec by any chance?
As strange and tacky and weird as it seems to the rest of us, apparently this is actually normal in some parts of Quebec.
If that is the case, my understanding is that a gift is not expected.
Post # 6
I would definitely not even attend a wedding like this… they’re asking you to pay for a party that they want to throw for themselves!
If you do go, just give a card. $100pp is more than enough!
Post # 8
sboom : It is in Quebec, but I live here and I’ve never seen this before. I will be attending as they are old friends of mine and I am going to contribute as they’ve asked even though I, too, think it’s in bad taste.
I guess my concern is that I am the one who will look cheap if I don’t give a gift aside from the contribution. To be honest, if they hadn’t put this request on the invitation, I’d have given more.
Post # 9
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Hahahaha! I’m not bankrolling a wedding I’m not starring in.
Post # 10
darski73 : I would probably decline. If you want to go and don’t mind helping to pay for their self-congratulatory party, I certainly would not give a gift on top of it. Who cares if a couple of tacky cheapskates think you’re cheap? You say they’re old friends, but are they good friends?
Post # 11
I would pass, personally.
If on the .00001% chance I actually felt obligated enough to do this, then they would get their $100, no more and no less. That, in my opinion, is their gift. You can have me bankroll your wedding or you can have a thoughtful gift that could have possibly been more than what you are charging admission for, but you can’t have both.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2020 - Summer Camp!
Given the Quebec context, I would just give the $100. It’s cringe-y to me, but maybe that was normal in her family? If you’re feeling really generous, something small, cheap, and meaningful as well.
Post # 13
I usually give a gift of $100 or more anyways. It’s odd that it would be an “admittance fee”… but crazy on the nose sboom about this being a wedding from Quebec!
Since this is a custom (and even if it weren’t) I’d include a card with the $100 if I attended. The fact that they asked for the money wouldn’t deter me from going.
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2018 - Location
I live near Quebec but never heard of this. I would Put $100 in an envelope Since that’s the amount I usually give anyway. no gift.
I wouldn’t not attend for this reason as many others are suggesting but it does come across as tacky. Roll your eyes and move on
Post # 15
If they’re asking $100 per guest, would this actually translate to $200 per couple?