(Closed) wedding invitation dilemma

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sarahharas6:  First, I would let your friend know (and maybe she already does) that you wan to invite only her and the kids (for valid reasons).  She may tell you ‘sure’ or ‘no thanks’, and save you the hassle of worrying about it all!

If she understands, and wants the invite, then address it specifically to her and the kids:  Mrs. Jane Doe and John & Kelly (kids names).   Then, if applicable, let them know that 3 seats have been reserved in their honor, etc.

Tough situation…sounds like  his lack of invitation is valid though!!


Post # 4
3277 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I just wouldn’t invite any of them

Post # 5
1558 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@sarahharas6:  I’d probably not invite her. If her husband is disruptive to the point of violence, I would be afraid of him taking it out on her for going to your wedding without him.

Post # 6
56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Unfortunately, you could be putting this friend in an uncomfortable situation at home if the kids and her are invited but the husband isn’t.

I would definitely talk to her ahead of time. Tell her it’s important to you that she is included, but that unfortunately you’re not comfortable inviting her husband. She how she feels about that. Unfortunately, she may have to respecfully decline.

If she does choose to go it may be most appropriate to just invite her, instead of inviting the whole family except this husband. But it’s ultimately up to your friend what she and her family are comfortable with.

Post # 7
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@sarahharas6:  This is a situation in which it is ok to invite just one half of a married couple. That said, you should probably have a conversation about this with your friend. Is this an abusive relationship?

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