Post # 1
I have an unusual situation on my hands. I am a graphic designer, and I designed my sister’s wedding invitation. Donating my design skills and eating some of the printing cost was my wedding gift to her. I recently got a nice frame and some fabric that matched her wedding theme, and I framed her invitation. I was going to wrap it and give it to her for her gift at the wedding so she’d have something to open from me.
However, the more I look at it, I’m wondering if she would prefer to have it displayed at the wedding. I could give it to my fiance who is helping set up the reception and it would be there as a surprise for her. Now that I have it all done, it would look adorable on a table at the reception. It would match all the other decor. However, this was never my intention and now i’m left wondering what to do.
Has anyone ever seen a wedding invitation displayed at a wedding? Is this wierd? I’m also wondering how she will perceive it. She loves the invite and loves the sentiment of having had her sister design it. However, will this make her feel like I’m trying to show off and put attention on myself? I feel like this could go terribly wrong or she could be incredibly touched and love the idea. Please answer the poll below.
Here’s an additonal thought: what if I gave it to her at the rehearsal dinner? Then she could decide if she wants it at the wedding on her own. It would be her own idea. Is it normal to give the bride a groom their gift at the rehearsal dinner? If not, when is it appropriate to do so? I obviously cant bring it to the reception with me. This is my first time being a bridesmaid in awhile..
Post # 3
@jg780806: I’d say no, but I also wouldn’t frame it and give it as a gift either. I just rubs me the wrong way, like “rememeber I did your invites so you’re not getting another from me.”
Post # 4
I think she will love receiving the framed invitation as a gift.
I think your guests may consider it odd to display at the wedding as they have all seen it already.
Post # 6
@Captain013: I am definitely going to give it to her a gift. I know my sister. She will understand I’m giving it her to display in her home. She’ll love it. But I don’t know how my sister will be on the day-of. She will probably be a puddle of emotions.
Post # 7
I would just wrap it. All the guests will have (presumably) seen the invitation, so I think displaying it is a little weird.
Post # 8
Displaying it would be weird, I’d wrap it and give it as a gift.
Post # 9
All these replies are helpful. I definitely had a feeling it would be weird. This has confirmed that. Thanks!
Post # 10
@jg780806: we’d love to see a pic of the gorgeous invite though!
Post # 11
@jg780806: It is her (and her fiance’s) wedding and it is up to them to decide whether to display it. I would talk to her fiance about what he thinks of displaying it, making it clear it is his decision. Have this conversation before the setup day, so that he can have some time to think whether to surprise her, or discuss it with her. (He, better than you, will know if she’d like the surprise).
If he opts not to display it, I like the idea of giving it to her some time before the wedding, whether that’s at the rehearsal dinner or some other time.
Post # 12
I think it could look cute displayed on the table that has everyone’s placecards or something.
But to be sure and not weird out the bride, I would give it to bride and groom beforehand and see if they want to display it (you can tell them you just wanted to give them the option, not that you care whether it is displayed or not). Rehearsal dinner (but not in front of everyone) could be fine, or anytime you see them in the days leading up to the wedding (a nice dinner) or something.
Post # 13
@Firework: That’s a good call. I obviously don’t care either way. I just want her to be happy. I guess my biggest fear would be her calling me a couple days after the wedding saying, “I loved you invite! I wish you would have given it to me sooner so I could display it!” She would totally say that….
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i think displaying it at the wedding could be cute. if it’s a venue that hosts more than one wedding/event at the same time, it would be a cute way to indicate which area/room their wedding is.