(Closed) Should I leave my dad off the invite?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
  • poll: How should I do this?
    Both parents should be on the invite : (0 votes)
    Just your mom should be the host : (6 votes)
    67 %
    Leave both parents off the invite : (3 votes)
    33 %
    Acknowledge parents, but not as hosts : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    123 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would personally write it up to have your mother as a single host.

    Mrs. Your mom’s name
    requests the honour of your presence
    at the marriage of their daughter
    Ms. Alloy
    to
    Mr. Alloy

    I think that after doing the majority of raising you on her own and helping with the wedding, your mom deserves this honor. I agree that naming your father would really cheapen her contribution.

    If your dad asks why he was not named on the invitation, explain (politely) to him that traditionally only financial contributors to the wedding are named on the invitation. He doesn’t need to know that your mother’s contribution is more DIY help than financial, none of his business really. Also explain that the host of the wedding is usually named, and he is not hosting. Good luck 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @SouthernCJ: This is the best explanation, and a great way to get out of putting your dad on the invite. Your mom deserves to be the only person listed

    Post # 5
    Member
    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I had a similar situation, but I didn’t tell my Dad that he wouldn’t be on the invite.  He hasn’t contributed one bit.  No phone calls, no nothing.  So I was a little shcoked when he received the invitation and blew up at my brother. He said he would not be attending my wedding.  I know that you are trying to keep things civil so maybe let him know ahead of time so you don’t have the same reaction.

    PS I’m actually happy he’s not going to be there.  I don’t really like him much.

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