(Closed) Wedding Invitation Not having a +1

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

If you are engaged I would put a 2.  My family has done this – I’ve live out of my parent’s house for over three years now and just last year a wedding invitation for a cousin was address to my parents and family – so when they responded they put 6, my parents, me and the Fiance, and my brother and his gf.  There were no problems or issues with it.  I would put 2.  If it presents an issue, then he can call you.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I wouldnt just put 2 if the invite didnt indicate a +1. Contact your uncle and ask if your Fiance is invited or not and get it all cleared up. Since you are not close maybe he forgot about your Fiance or maybe he had some other reason for not inving him. And i definately would not just show up with a guest.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I would ask your uncle.  Think of all the threads here about bees who had had “too many people” on the RSVP’s and how stressed out they get.  You should contact your Uncle (or better yet, his FI) and first congratulate them on the upcoming wedding and then say you were a little confused because the invite was addressed to you, and ask if you Fiance is also invited.  Don’t assume, and don’t give your uncle’s Fiance added stress by “adding” an extra guest to your invite!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i would RSVP +2. im sure if he wanted to just invite you…then he’d make sure of it by clearing stating that only 1 seat is reserved for you as i’ve seen in some invites. sometimes, it also states on the envelope the people’s names. i’m sure your mom wouldnt have suggested to put 2 if she thought her brother did not want him there. and like what your mom said about you two being ENGAGED and meeting him a few times, im sure he’d love your fiancee to be there

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I would ask. My uncle and his wife did that for their wedding and I was in the same situation–dating Fiance longer than they even knew each other–and it was just an oversight. I know I’d have a meltdown if a RSVP came with an added person.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I agree – give him a call. You can clarify this, and catch up a bit! Two birds, one stone. Awesome.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

I’d call. I know how pissed people can get when someone writes in a +1.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Or you could have your mom call him.  I invited my cousins, and apparently one of the boys (my age) lives with his girlfriend.  His dad asked my mom if she could possibly be added, otherwise she’d drive up with them and just amuse herself that night.  It wasn’t a problem at all (I honestly didn’t know he was living with someone), but I was glad that he asked.

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