Post # 1
I received a wedding invitation today, for my uncle (his 2nd marraige). It’s addressed just to myself, and not a +1. Now, we do not really socialize – he’s my Mom’s brother and they rarely talk as well. I’m not close with his kids either, as I live a few hours from them.
My Mom has said to just put 2 for the RSVP response, as I’ve been engaged longer than they have even been dating – he’s met my Fiance multiple times as well (but I can guarantee he doesn’t know his name). If he has a problem with it, he could contact me then. I feel bad doing this, as I’m in fear he will just leave it as one and we show up with just one spot – who knows. I also feel it could just be out of spite, as my sister got married almost 3 years ago, and he asked to bring his then girlfriend, but she told him no (they were barely dating, and no one in the family knew her – sister only had room for him and his two kids – said he could bring her or bring the kids).
So, I’m not sure what I should do. I could Facebook message him, but is that a strange thing to ask? I have no intention to drive 3+ hours to his wedding alone, which may make me sound like a jerk, but I really don’t like this uncle, and would just be going because he’s family. Who wants to drive that far alone, for someone you really don’t get along with, and have to spend the night alone (or with my folks). No fun..
Post # 3
If you are engaged I would put a 2. My family has done this – I’ve live out of my parent’s house for over three years now and just last year a wedding invitation for a cousin was address to my parents and family – so when they responded they put 6, my parents, me and the Fiance, and my brother and his gf. There were no problems or issues with it. I would put 2. If it presents an issue, then he can call you.
Post # 4
I wouldnt just put 2 if the invite didnt indicate a +1. Contact your uncle and ask if your Fiance is invited or not and get it all cleared up. Since you are not close maybe he forgot about your Fiance or maybe he had some other reason for not inving him. And i definately would not just show up with a guest.
Post # 5
I would ask your uncle. Think of all the threads here about bees who had had “too many people” on the RSVP’s and how stressed out they get. You should contact your Uncle (or better yet, his FI) and first congratulate them on the upcoming wedding and then say you were a little confused because the invite was addressed to you, and ask if you Fiance is also invited. Don’t assume, and don’t give your uncle’s Fiance added stress by “adding” an extra guest to your invite!
Post # 6
@Rock Hugger: You know what, contacting his Fiance may be the better idea. She was nice when I met her last year (really, I don’t kow what she sees in him!), so maybe that would be the better idea.
Post # 7
i would RSVP +2. im sure if he wanted to just invite you…then he’d make sure of it by clearing stating that only 1 seat is reserved for you as i’ve seen in some invites. sometimes, it also states on the envelope the people’s names. i’m sure your mom wouldnt have suggested to put 2 if she thought her brother did not want him there. and like what your mom said about you two being ENGAGED and meeting him a few times, im sure he’d love your fiancee to be there
Post # 8
I would ask. My uncle and his wife did that for their wedding and I was in the same situation–dating Fiance longer than they even knew each other–and it was just an oversight. I know I’d have a meltdown if a RSVP came with an added person.
Post # 9
I agree – give him a call. You can clarify this, and catch up a bit! Two birds, one stone. Awesome.
Post # 10
I’d call. I know how pissed people can get when someone writes in a +1.
Post # 11
Or you could have your mom call him. I invited my cousins, and apparently one of the boys (my age) lives with his girlfriend. His dad asked my mom if she could possibly be added, otherwise she’d drive up with them and just amuse herself that night. It wasn’t a problem at all (I honestly didn’t know he was living with someone), but I was glad that he asked.
Post # 12
Got a response from his Fiance already actually and we are good to go! Thanks for that suggestion!
Thanks everyone – Didn’t want to do the wrong thing!