Post # 1
I do not understand wedding invitation rsvps…
I recently spent days, yes days, addressing, stuffing, stamping, and assembling my wedding invitaions. we sent out 90, but i’ve gotten less than 20 cards in response (cut off date is tomorrow). So now i’m hunting people down over email and the phone and about 10 times now I’ve heard, “oh yes we will definitely be there!” One person even said, “I never send those things back” Needless to say I’m annoyed.
Return address and postage already attached, and then they’re basically delivered to your front door. I did the work for you! Why can’t you just check ‘yes’ or ‘no’ and stick it back in the mailbox? I mean these are grown adults! Might as well have sent an e-vite. So glad I wasted the time and money.
We should have eloped 🙂
Post # 3
Sister you are preaching to the choir! Join the club.. it is so frustrating and aggravating and something that almost every woman planning a wedding has had to deal with! I try to be so good about sending RSVPs back when we get them. But just last week I got an invitation in the mail to a friend’s wedding – we aren’t attening – but the reply date was the day that we got the invitation in the mail! LOL I sent it the next day.
Post # 4
Gosh, I know I will be going through this as well… So annoying!
Post # 5
@prettynewpenny: oh gosh, we sent our’s out ~July 15 and have received a fair number back already which is something pleasant, at least. However, the majority have done one, some, or all of the following:
- Did not fill out their name (so I had to break out the blacklight pen to figure out whose it was… SO glad I did this)
- Crossed out the “number of seats reserved” and indicated a HIGHER number
- Instead of indicating how many people would be attending, they wrote a checkmark, X, scribble, drool mark or other such indicator
It’s pretty sad, though… you do 99% of the work for them and people are still too lazy to walk the envelope back to the mailbox… very, very frustrating
Post # 6
I hear you! Its my last week for RSVP’s as well. I expected a lot, So far I’ve gotten 3 (still missing around 20!). Everyday I have a little vent. FILL. OUT. CARD. PUT. IN. MAILBOX. very easy, two steps, come on people!
Instead of tracking people down (may of these people I’ve never meet or don’t talk to a lot, don’t have phone numbers for, ect) I’m sending them a remider postcard stating (in a nice way) that if I don’t hear from them by the 15th I will assume that they are not coming! (I don’t need the numbers for the caterer until the 17th).
Post # 7
I know how you feel, had the same experience….it was so damn expensive to mail out the invites and then to only get 1/4 of the them rsvp was even more upsetting.
Post # 8
Ugh…That would have annoyed me to the max also! What a waste of time and money!
Post # 9
I was never the best with sending out the cards super quickly, but I have a totally different perspective on it now and will never again slack on sending them back ASAP. A few days before our cards were due, I was getting emails and texts from people who misplaced the cards or forgot to mail them.
And then we couldn’t even get our officiant to send back his RSVP card. A week after the responses were due, I called the temple director and begged her to track him down. She emailed me later with his response and meal choice. He was the last one, but I had to put my mother on phone duty to call and text more than a handful of relatives. Some people have said through other guests that they’re coming — cousin A called to say cousin B is coming, etc. — but I still can’t get in touch with them to get their meal choice. Our count is due today, so I just picked for them. These are typically people who have planned similar events, so I can’t believe they’re the stragglers.
And one person mailed back his card in three pieces. No explanation on that one.
Post # 10
Had the same problem! People are so rude!
Post # 11
@MrsToB: Holy crap I forgot to send an invite to our officiant. I hand delivered his save-the-date and completely forgot to add him to our guest list. How embarassing. I don’t have any more custom envelopes either…I’m going to have to put it in a regular white card envelope and pray he doesn’t figure out it was an after thought.
@echoica: We’ve had 3 people add a guest to their rsvp. I don’t really care about the 2 that are traveling from out of state, but one was my future sister-in-law ( who, btw, told me she hated me because I was younger than her and getting married first). She added a +1 all the while knowing that we are paying for this wedding ourselves and money is tight. She’s single, so naturally I asked who her “date” was….it’s her snobby best friend. I wanted to tell her she could shove her +1 where the sun don’t shine, but it’s probably best not to rock that boat. Even my fiance is too scared of her to say anything.
@MrsToB: We got one back with a smudge of peanut butter on it. At least I hope it was peanut butter. Gag.
Post # 12
That’s why I put up the RSVP function on my wedding website. No tangible RSVP cards whatsoever. I figure our families won’t RSVP and will just call our moms anyway…I know this from past experience because both my FIs sister and my sisters are already married. Our friends will actually get online and use the RSVP function on the website, so we’re good there. I’m glad I won’t be spending the extra money on RSVP cards and stamps!
I still don’t get it though…it’s so rude to NOT RSVP! I always RSVP! Anyway, good luck ladies 🙂
Post # 13
I sent out 67 invitations and have gotten 11 back! Our cut off date is next week so I am starting toaddresses email addresses for the missing bajillion.
Post # 14
I hear ya
My rsvp date has come and gone and we are still waiting on about 40 cards (80) people.
They have until Tuesday and then I start calling!!!!
Post # 15
my favorite were the people who felt the need to text me instead of sending the stupid card. Yes I would LOVE to receive 100+ texts throughout the day when I’m out and about, yeah thats a good idea.
Post # 16
YEP, bitterly disappointing.
My annoyance so far….
SIL, wrote on her RSVP for her lazy ass adult children (one of whom we still haven’t received a thank you verbal or otherwise for the extravangant gift for their child) that they will not be attending. Even though they live in different provinces from their mother, are too damn lazy to RSVP themselves with their prestamped, preaddressed RSVP envelopes. I guess that walk to a post box is just too much to ask.
Friend of sister who demanded multiple times an invite (could not understand why, I haven’t seen this woman in 25yrs) realized she was out of town during the wedding. So why hassle me for an invite. grr