Post # 1
So I was at Wal-Mart today shopping around and ran into a lady that I plan to invite to my wedding. She was asking me if I received her Facebook message with her address information on it and I told her I did and thanked her for it. She was like “you know, you can just send me a message on FB messenger whenever you decide to send the paper invites out so it can save you some money!” I told her I would, but I also feel like sending an actual invite in the mail feels more personal. Did/will any of you bees invite guests to your wedding via internet (email, social media, etc.)?
Post # 2
We used paper invitations that were mailed, but I don’t see anything wrong with electronic invites.
Post # 3
It depends on your crowd. You need to be sure the less internet savvy receive their invites. I’m not against the idea in theory!
Post # 4
- Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza
At the end of the day, it depends on your people, as PP said. But I’m with you: a personal invitation is the classiest way to go.
Also, would you like to ensure you get all your RSVP’s? I assume so! In My Humble Opinion the best way to make that happen is to send an invite with the traditional return, STAMPED envelope. Make it as easy on your guests as possible, and you won’t have to deal with the angst of knowing your RSVPs later.
Post # 5
We did electronic invites through Paperless Post, and had people RSVP electronically through clicking on it or by emailing or by calling us. We also printed out 20 for the technologically challenged and to keep. I wouldn’t have minded doing traditional mail invites but DH really liked the idea of saving some paper 🙂 And the designs we/I chose were pretty!
Post # 6
That’s nice of that person to offer that, but for most people I’d worry about them missing the invite in their inbox or spam folder. I also like the formality of a paper invite.
Post # 7
We sent out save the dates with an invite and a ‘how to RSVP online’ via our website. About two months before the wedding, we send out official invitations via email to everyone. My DH’s thought was if his 90-year old Great Uncle could manage to RSVP online then everyone else should be able to figure it out. I think we had two people who called us instead of RSVPing and of course a few people that we had to track down for not answering.
Post # 8
I’d think itd be easier to reply to an email……i know you are saying all the guest has to do it fill out a card, put it in the envelope and drop it in the mail, and I know that isnt difficult by any means.
I think doing online everything makes sense as far as your crowd goes. So much happens online now, why not weddings? Think of all the paper we’d save….STD’s, invites, envelopes, rsvp cards, thank you cards….I think it would be great. Things could still be designed out, personalized as necessary, just sent to an inbox instead of a mailbox. We all sign up for things all the time that are important to us and we make sure to find it, whether in the inbox or spam folder. I think this would be great!
Though I do understand we are far from this being the norm.
Post # 9
I’m thinking of doing just online invites. The only person who wouldn’t be able to get an invition that way is my grandma and she only lives like 30mins from me, so I can just go and tell her when it is or print just a single “invitation” for her.
Post # 10
My sister did both and said the online thing was a nightmare. Most people didn’t do it, some thought their partner did it online because they had discussed it (and yet the partner did not), some didn’t do anything because they were confused.
Paper with stamped return envelope all the way. It can go in the “to-do drawer” or on the fridge as a nice reminder. Just check your weight before you buy stamps… 🙂
Post # 11
My daughter did online RSVPs, set-up through her wedding website. She heard from 248 of 250 guests, 10 days before the due date. Even her then 88 year old grandmother uses the internet, on a daily basis.
Post # 12
I don’t particularly like the online route because it’s fun to get mail! That said the post office lost 2 of my guests’ invitations so neither method is 100% reliable.
Post # 13
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Thank you ladies so much! You all gave me really valid points and a lot to think about. I really need to go back on my guest list and think about whom is tech savy, who isn’t, etc. It would be nice to be able to cater to everyone’s taste and it may very well be possible by sending the invites out along with several ways they could RSVP to us! This way everyone gets a formal paper invite with the freedom to choose how they will RSVP. I’m in the middle of fixing up a wedding website right now, so once it’s all done, it will be another way guests can RSVP that haven’t done so. Super excited!!
Post # 14
Hi there we are thinking of doing it that way as well. Which websites did you use for your how to and for sending the email invites? Thanks!
Post # 15
We used Appy Couple. It allowed us to send a pre-formatted invitation and reminder, which all came with instructions. It also allowed guests to instant message us and upload their own photos. It’s also nice if your doing multiple events with different people as you can make separate events and have the details and rsvp option only visible to those invited to that specific event – like a rehearsal dinner.