Post # 1
I joined this site because I’m in serious need of help with wedding invitation wording. My parents were divorced. My mom remarried and my dad has a long term live in fiancée who he acts as if he is married to. They are technically not married but refer to each other as if they are and she refers to herself as my step mom and he pretty much raises her kids. My mom was remarried, but she passed away earlier this year. My step dad will still be included in the wedding as I plan to do two father daughter dances, one with my dad and one with my step dad to his and my mothers wedding song. My finances parents are also divorced. She is engaged but not remarried yet so her last name is still legally the same as his dad’s. So my question is whose names go on the invitation. I thought about together with their parents but my dad doesn’t like that. So should it be just dads name requests your presence? Or is it wrong to leave my step dad out?
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Together with their families? Or don’t put them on the invitation at all.
Post # 3
Agreed with PP. “Together with their parents” goes a long way when relationships get complicated.
Post # 4
Who is paying the for the wedding? The reason that the bride’s parents are traditionally listed is because, traditionally, they pay for it. If none of the parents are paying, then you and your Fiance are the hosts and parents don’t need to be mentioned at all. If all parents are contributing, then they can either all be mentioned by name or you can just say “together with their families/parents”. If your dad is the only one paying, then he can be listed.
Ultimately, it doesn’t matter whether you’re dad likes the wording or not, particularly if he isn’t paying – it’s not his wedding so he can suck it up.
Post # 5
Since there are so many permutations here, can we first ask who’s paying?
Post # 6
Who is hosting the wedding? The hosts invite people, so their names are usually on the invitations. If there might be any question of who the couple are, that can be cleared up by including “Daughter of” and/or “Son of” and then parents names. Those are the only reasons names should be on an invitation. So, who is hosting, and is there any chance people might not know who you and your fiance are?
Post # 7
What about “together with their families”? Includes everyone from parents to step parents to siblings! You can give your dad the old “it takes a village…” lineand say you want to pay tribute to everyone in both your families
Post # 8
im not 100% sure on what part my dad is paying for yet, but he is helping. Grooms parents will be paying for alcohol as I read somewhere that that is tradition and they asked me what I wanted them to pay for and that’s what I told him. I really like the together with their families one. I guess I will just have to tell my dad to suck it up lol. Y’all definitely made me feel better about that
Post # 9
Is your stepdad paying for anything?
Post # 10
I had a lot of drama and complications for my parents paying for part of the wedding (ie all of it + some) but his parents contributing (very generous) and trying to take control of everything. In the end, after a lot of drama about who’s name went on what, I said screw it, and said “Together with their families”