(Closed) Wedding invitation with remarried and deceased parents

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle

Together with their families? Or don’t put them on the invitation at all.

Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Agreed with PP. “Together with their parents” goes a long way when relationships get complicated. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Who is paying the for the wedding? The reason that the bride’s parents are traditionally listed is because, traditionally, they pay for it. If none of the parents are paying, then you and your Fiance are the hosts and parents don’t need to be mentioned at all. If all parents are contributing, then they can either all be mentioned by name or you can just say “together with their families/parents”. If your dad is the only one paying, then he can be listed.

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter whether you’re dad likes the wording or not, particularly if he isn’t paying – it’s not his wedding so he can suck it up.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Since there are so many permutations here, can we first ask who’s paying?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

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amandagaylef:  Who is hosting the wedding? The hosts invite people, so their names are usually on the invitations. If there might be any question of who the couple are, that can be cleared up by including “Daughter of” and/or “Son of” and then parents names. Those are the only reasons names should be on an invitation. So, who is hosting, and is there any chance people might not know who you and your fiance are?

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

What about “together with their families”? Includes everyone from parents to step parents to siblings! You can give your dad the old “it takes a village…” lineand say you want to pay tribute to everyone in both your families

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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amandagaylef:  Is your stepdad paying for anything?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

I had a lot of drama and complications for my parents paying for part of the wedding (ie all of it + some) but his parents contributing (very generous) and trying to take control of everything. In the end, after a lot of drama about who’s name went on what, I said screw it, and said “Together with their families”

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