Post # 1
My fiance and I are paying for our own wedding. It is my second and his first. We are have a small intimate ceremony of immediate family and a few very close special friends. We are getting married at 5pm and want everyone to join us for dinner afterwards, however we would like to have our guests pay for their own meal. We are not asking for any gifts as we are already living together. 1. How do we word it on the invitations?
Post # 3
Yeah…you’re pretty much going to get responses here that yes, that is rude. It is better to just say that it is appetizers or dessert (or cake/punch) only on the invite then provide those and say it on the invite like “ceremony to be followed by cake & punch reception”
If you go that route, it will really only be the cost of you making some iced tea or lemonade and you can bake your own cake for a few dollars.
Or don’t feed them, but it’s probably best not to make coming to your wedding conditional on them paying for their meal which is what that kind of a set-up would imply.
Post # 4
A simple “No gifts please” at the bottom is definity ok, I’ve seen it done many times, but you might still get one. Having people pay for there own diner might be an issue though. You might be better off not having a diner, and just a cake/punch reception. You can still have a nice reception without the dinner, just have a dance later on maybe with cake?
Post # 5
PLEASE dont do this.
this is your wedding. you’re the hosts. i think it’s in bad taste to make your guests pay–just think of alternative ways to celebrate. you could even do an at home reception and cater it yourself–get fancy apps from costco! or if you’re doing a formal venue just pay for a champagne toast or a cake and first dance reception.
Post # 5
dmm051912: don’t listen to the naysayers, it is YOUR day. PLUS, this will get rid of the people coming for the free meal, so you can celebrate with the people who really care about you.
here are some ideas:
“We love you all dearly, But money is tight,<br />So consider this please, when you read this invite.<br />Your presence is needed, but your presents are not.<br />To pay for your meal would help us a lot.”
To take away the ‘present’ worry, <br />tell us you can come… <br />Attend – instead – our wedding feast <br />by dishing up your meal sum!
We are sending out this invitation,<br />And hope you will join our celebration.<br />If to send a gift is your intention,<br />In modesty we’d like to mention,<br />We already have a kettle and toaster,<br />Crockery, clocks and even coasters.<br />A present for us that would be ideal<br />Would be payment for your meal.<br />But, most importantly, we request,<br />That you turn up as our wedding guest
Best of luck!
Post # 6
natrona: this is a three year old thread. I’m guessing the original poster has already had her reception dinner, regardless of the payment arrangements.
that said, it’s still rude and tacky to expect guests to pay for their meal, and dressing it up with a cutesy poem doesn’t make it any better.
Post # 7
natrona: You might want to check the date on old threads before you revive them. This one is three years old. I am sure the Bee has resolved her question by now.
ps putting something in a bad poem does not make it acceptable.