(Closed) Wedding Invitation Wording – Bride or Groom’s Name First?

posted 8 years ago in South Asian
  • poll: Who goes first: Bride or Groom?
    Bride's name : (20 votes)
    80 %
    Groom's name : (1 votes)
    4 %
    Either way - it doesn't matter! : (4 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    2866 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    That’s ridiculous – you don’t need two sets of invites.

    Rule of thumb is whoever is hosting is listed first usually the brides name is first because the bride’s parents have traditionally paid. If his parents are paying then perhaps they would go first as would his name.

    If it’s some combination then I’d do one of the following:

    Mr and Mrs Brides Parents
    and Mr and Mrs Grooms Parents
    invited you to share in the wedding of
    Bride and Groom


    Together with their parents

    Bride & Groom

    invite you to….etc.



    Post # 5
    1940 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We did (all fictitious names Smile):


    Miss Jane Ann Smith


    Mr. John Robert Jones 


    together with their parents

    Mr. and Mrs. Michael and Susan Black


    Mr. and Mrs. George and Sandra Keiler



    Post # 6
    714 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    We have actually just finished our invite wording.  All etiquette books say brides name is listed first.  The problem we ran into is that my Fiance parents are paying for most of the wedding, with my parents contributing some.  At first we talked about doing it like this:

    Mr & Mrs. Grooms parents

    together with 

    Mr & Mrs Brides parents

    request the honor of your presences at the wedding of their children




    But I think in the end we may have switched it and put my parents before his.  Ultimately, I decided it doesn’t really matter.  I personally have never analyzed a wedding invite to determine who was paying for it.  However, etiquette dictates that your name (the bride) goes before his.  And there is NO way you want to try to keep 2 sets of invites straight…that just sounds like a tone of work for you! 


    Post # 7
    2 posts

    We are doing two sets of invitations.  And it’s not even my parents name at the top!  Traditionally, the “elders” hold the function, in my family that is my uncle.  So it’s “uncle and aunt request the honor of your presence at the wedding of ME (daughter of so-and-so) to FIANCE (son of so-and-so)….”

    So that could be an option.  Just skip the top part and say your honor is requested at the wedding of YOU (daughter of so-and-so)…….

    Post # 8
    137 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    We had two separate sets of invitations (should be really easy for you to do since you’re DIY), one with bride’s parents first, one with groom’s parents first.

    FI’s parents were telling me that in India, there are usually two sets of invitations (not sure if this is a regional or family thing), partially because there are some events of the wedding days that the bride and groom are separate.  Even though that wasn’t the case for us, we decided it’s kind of nice for each guest to see the names of the people they know first.

    Ultimately, it doesn’t really matter.  However, if your Future Mother-In-Law wants their names first, you might want to see if it’s doable.

    Post # 9
    7 posts

    runskiclimb, you are right…indian weddings have two sets of invites, one for the brides guests and one for the grooms since they both have separate pre-wedding functions. The brides invites will have her name first and the grooms invites will have his name first.

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