(Closed) Wedding Invitation Wording- Groom’s Father Deceased

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Lois_Lane: Same situation here. I’ve chosen to buck etiquette rules one this one too. I agree that not mentioning him is just not an option. Mine is the same as yours except we are using the “late” option. I think it sounds better. On our website we have a dedications page where we put in loving memory of…etc. We’ll also put a special portion for him in our program, perhaps with scripture. But I think using “late” is concise and doesn’t dwell on it. It’s not a downer, it’s correct and to the point.

Post # 5
15 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Same situation here…my FH’s father died when he was 5, but I do feel like his parents names should be on the invitation. I think that I too will use the “late” option, but just want to be sure I have it right before dropping all of that cash to get them printed…

Mr. and Mr. (my dad’s name)

request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter



(my FH)

son of Mrs. of Ms.? FH’s mom and the late Mr. FH’s dad??

Thanks so much for your posts.

Post # 6
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I just looked this up in my Crane’s Wedding Blue Book. (If you don’t know it, Crane’s is the Miss Manners of wedding stationary…but is notoriously stuffy so please take what I’m transcribing with a grain of salt – it’s  not my opinion, just their suggestion!)

Crane’s states that it’s generally inappropriate to include the deceased’s name on the invitation (FWIW, they also think it’s inappropriate to include entree choices on a response card – not that I’m equating these things, just giving a little perspective) unless the couple is Hispanic, because this is part of the Hispanic tradition.

In a Hispanic invitation the invitation would look like this:

Mrs. Jane Doe

Mr. Jane Doe*

request the honor of your presence

at the marriage of their daughter


In place of where I put the * they use a small cross if the deceased is Christian, or a small Star of David if the deceased is Jewish.

Crane’s also says that the deceased is always mentioned in the newspaper announcement, in the wedding program, and a prayer may be said for them during the service.

Post # 7
831 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Curious, is there a reason why you don’t you want to use “late”?

The way you wrote up “son of Mrs. His Mom, and Mr. His Dad, in blessed memory” almost sounds a bit awkward to me. Not that I have a better suggestion other than using “late”.



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