(Closed) wedding invitations

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
562 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@earlgreytea25:  Whatever you do, make sure it is very clear to everyone what to expect. If you want family at the dinner, make sure they know they are invited (and only them.) For the rest of the guests, who will be invited to the dessert-only reception, their invitations could read something like, “dessert and dancing to follow” the wedding ceremony. 

Post # 4
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

What is your timing for this? Are you planning ceremony for all, then dinner for family only, then desert and dancing for all? If so, I’d make sure that your guests are made fully aware that there will be a time gap during which they should find dinner on their own. 

Post # 6
9954 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Hi @earlgreytea25:  First and foremost, I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”

I am a bit of an Etiquette Snob here in on WBee… in that I do know most of the Rules… but probably more importantly that the truth is there is a RISK / CONSEQUENCE involved in when someone breaks them…

So you most certainly have to know your audience if you wish to go against the grain.

With that said…

There is nothing wrong with a Dessert & Dancing Reception… infact it sound wonderful

And there is nothing wrong with wanting to have an “Intimate Wedding” that is small and just for family.

BUT at the same time, it is considered RUDE to invite someone and then “dismiss them”… so the correct procedure is once they are present, they are there for the duration.

# 1 = In so much as you wish to have an Intimate Dinner for JUST Family, then you either need to have your Mealtime event happen BEFORE the Wedding (Meal – Ceremony – Party).  In which case the meal could be a Breakfast BEFORE an afternoon Ceremony… or a Dinner BEFORE an Evening Ceremony

# 2 = OR you need to have your Celebration / Party on another Day for ALL your Guests (Ceremony & Meal one day…. Party another)

# 3 = OR Ceremony & Party one day… and the Meal for Family another (ie Day After Brunch)

# 4 = The only other same day option that would be seen to be polite, would be have your Wedding Ceremony & Meal for immediate family… and then later on invite everyone to the Reception / Party afterwards (so the bulk of your Guests would only be coming to the Reception Party)

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As for paperwork / stationery…

Ceremony & Meal (or Ceremony & Reception) … Wedding Invitation would follow the norm… with the Closing Line “Reception to Follow at   location  

When there is a Party held on another day, the Invites would follow the norm for a Belated Reception (those used for another date, not the same date as the Wedding itself).  Sometimes referred to as a Wedding Celebration

Let me know which one of the options laid out here (# 1, 2, 3 or 4) you are leaning towards, and I’ll provide you with the appropriate wording if you like.

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
4770 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

What are you dessert guests going to do between 1 and 7?

Depending on where you are from, this is considered rude, but in other places it’s common practice, so it really depends if this is something you should be doing.

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