Post # 1
This might be a really stupid questions, but is it bad etiquette to pass out wedding invitations at the shower?? My bridesmaids are throwing my shower about 11 weeks before our wedding, and I don’t plan to send the invites until around that time. I was just thinking it would save us in postage, but it does seem like it could be a little strange. What do you all think?
Post # 3
I don’t see a problem with it, as long as everyone at the shower will be getting an invitation to the wedding (hopefully that’s the case!)
Post # 4
I was thinking about doing this. I think it’s fine as long as you know the guests well.
Post # 5
I would consider this rude and in poor taste. It might say to your guests that you didn’t want to bother with paying for postage. Beside people get excited when they get a wedding invitation in the mail! I would definitely mail them instead. But you know your guests better than us…
Post # 6
Hand delivery is perfectly acceptable.
Post # 7
It is not rude or in poor taste as long as everyone has either already received one or is getting one at the shower. It would be rude if they were mailed to few after the shower (while others had received theirs at the shower) and seem like they were an afterthought.
What better way to personally invite someone than to tell them how much it means to you for them to be there and give them their invitation? It will save you the postage and be more personal so I say go for it!
Post # 8
Hand delivery is fine, as long as everyone’s invitation is ready and everyone there is getting one.
Edit: I also agree that proper etiquette states that hand delivery is considered ‘better’ than mailing. So don’t stress about that at all.
Post # 9
@MAlove Maybe it wouldn’t be in poor taste to your guests, but it would be to mine. I’m just offering another realistic point of view.
Post # 10
Proper etiquette is that hand delivery is preferred to mailing, so go ahead and hand them out! If people think it’s rude than they have no concept of proper etiquette and if that’s the case, well at least you know you did the right thing!
Post # 11
I think it is fine! I am opting to mail mine b/c my shower is only a month before my wedding! but I see nothing wrong with handing someone an invitation and telling them how much you would love for the to attend! However I have never been to a bridal shower that I hadnt already been invited to the wedding…..not sure on that part. Good Luck!