(Closed) Wedding invitations – first name only?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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mrsponticello:  Are you listing your parents on the invites? Like, does it say

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith invite you to the marriage of their daughter




son of Mr. and Mrs. Sam Wilson”

if so, just having your first names is probably fine, but if not I would put your last names on the invitation. 

Post # 3
184 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I only put our first names on ours.  I think it was fine.   Our wedding is more casual.   If yours is formal you should include middle names.

Post # 4
523 posts
Busy bee

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mrsponticello:  I just put first names on our invitations, neither of us are very formal people 😊

Post # 5
5995 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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mrsponticello:  This is definitely a case where “what works for you” comes ahead of etiquette.

But… Ashley and James are two of the most common names out there. Will it be 100% unambiguous whose wedding it is, to everyone? Will your fiance’s interstate aunt be asking, “Which James is this?”. Not everyone keeps the envelope or looks at the back.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

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mrsponticello:  I recieved an invitation with just first names and could not figure out who the hell it was. Husband didn’t know either. We RSVPd no then some time later realized it was his second cousin or something. A last name would’ve rung a bell and we might have gone.

Post # 7
2704 posts
Sugar bee

We only have first names on ours.

If, as PPs said, some people can’t figure out who’s wedding it is than I don’t imaigine you would miss those guests anyway.

Post # 8
27 posts
  • Wedding: November 2015

I only put our first names, we’re not having a very formal wedding and are only inviting about 75 close friends and family so there’s no mistaking who’s wedding it is. If you have a large wedding or are inviting distant relatives you might want to include your last name.

Post # 9
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

The big graphic element on our invitations are just our first names. I ended up putting our full names in a smaller font in the text block. 90% of the people getting our invitations will know who we are by first name only, but we have a few people on our guest list who might be confused (extended family, parents friends), and so when we went to mail them out last week, I’m glad I put our last names on them. 

Post # 10
2417 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We have our first names really big in a pretty script font, and then underneath it says

Together with their families,

Brynne Jane Doe

and Devin John Smith

invite you…..etc in a more readable, simple font.


We have some family invited (my dad’s cousins) that would probably have no idea who I was if I didn’t have my last name on the invitation. (I know that in cases like that, some people would say don’t invite them, but the last time I had the opportunity to see most of them was at my dad’s funeral in 2008 and I would like to see them for a happy occasion.)

Post # 11
1020 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would say it depends how many people you’re inviting and how close you are to them. We only sent 60 invites and put our first names on them. Everyone knew who it was from.

Post # 12
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

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mrsponticello:  I just did our first names. It was fine.

Post # 13
3526 posts
Sugar bee

We just put our first names, no parents names. People still manager to figure out who we were s d show up 😛

Post # 14
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Sorry to threadjack here, but is it weird to put First Name Middle Name, and no last name?

Post # 15
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - country club in Michigan

Ours did both. In the pretty font, it said “EMM & FI”, and then it said “Mr and Mrs. EMM’s parents request the honour of your presence at the marriage of their daughter EMM’s FULL NAME to FULL NAME OF FI”

(and then the rest of the details).

Thank way nothing got lost. Pretty font, but also included our full names. 

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