Post # 1
Oh boy! So, the wedding is 10 months away (in December), but I’m sending the STDs out relatively soon since the wedding is at a more difficult time of year. I have been in somewhat of a dilemma over addressing…gathering all the address for everyone, proper format, etc….it’s a much bigger job than you would think at first!
Does anyone have any advice on how you would word an invitation if you want to allow the person to bring a guest? I’m just confused about that one, because I obviously wouldn’t word it that way for a family (cause they just all go together), but for a person whom I don’t know the SO of, I WOULD want to word it that way…I’m confused!! Any tips?
Also, what if you know both members of the couple, but they aren’t married yet, nor living together? Do they both get individual invitations? That was my thought…
Thirdly, here’s an interesting one. What would you do if you knew certain members of a family, but not the others? In my case, I know the mom and one of the daughters, but not the father or other children. How do I word that? Obviously the husband should be invited, but do I address it to “Mr. and Mrs. Smith” like I’m inviting him directly?
And how do I word family invitations? Would I address it to “The Smith Family”? Or, “Mr. and Mrs. Smith and Family”?
Finally, what is the etiquette for handing an invitation to someone? Is that completely improper, or is it acceptable in some case? (I feel like it’s totally improper…just wanted some thoughts).
I know it’s alot of questions! Thank you in advance to anyone who reads all this/responds to it 🙂
Post # 3
We just sent out our STDs, and I took the approach of addressing it only to the person we were actually inviting. My thinking was I wanted THAT person to save the date, and then when we send out invitations, we’ll indicate that he/she is also being given a +1. I figure 2 months is enough time for most of our guests to scrounge up a date, if they’re so inclined.
Additionally, if people live close, it won’t be a financial burden to bring a date, so the 2 months is enough time to plan without having extra financial hardship because of the “short” notice. If people live a good distance away, any ol’ date is probably not going to happen, since that’s asking the date to fork over a lot of money, most likely.
Given that you’re sending them out SO far in advance, I think it’s wise to wait a bit, see which relationships continue and which don’t, and plan accordingly with your invitations.
Post # 4
I was hoping more people would respond because I’ve been wondering the same things! I’m planning on sending STDs in the next couple of months, and I’ve been stressing out about how to address them. I’ve been doing some research so I’ll let you know what I’ve found:
1. I’m not sure what you do for the STDs. For the actual invite, I think you write the name of the person you are inviting on the outer envelope, and then on the inner envelope (or belly band or whatever), you would write Miss Jane Smith and Guest. Of course, if you know the name of the guest, I think you should include it on the inner envelope (regardless of whether they are living together….I think).
2. If there is one member of the couple who you are closer to, send the invitation to that person. If they are not living together, include the name of the other person on the inner envelope. If they are living together, both names should be on the envelope, but on separate lines. If you know both members of the couple well and they are not living together, I think that they should probably both get an invitation, assuming you would invite both if they were not in a relationship. I’m not sure about that though.
3. You should definitely include both the wife and husband on the outer envelope. I’ve read that you should have “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” on the outer envelope. On the inner envelope you would have “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith” and on a separate line, you would list out the names of their children. I think you can also write “Mr. and Mrs. John Smith and Family.” If the children are over 18, they are supposed to receive their own invitation. However, there are cases that it might make sense to include a child over 18 on the same invitation. In that case, you would include his/her name on the outer envelope, but on a separate line.
4. I’m not sure about handing out the invitations! I personally wouldn’t really mind either way, but I do like getting things in the mail!
I hope this helps! I’m hoping someone with more knowledge replies!
Post # 5
Ooooo this helps me! lol thank you 🙂