Post # 1
So, my parents are paying for the whole wedding, minus the flowers. FMIL is paying for the flowers.
Does this mean I have to write:
Mr. and Mrs. Brides Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the wedding of their daughter,
SON OF _____________________
I really don’t want to include “son of” because his parents are divorced, it’s lengthy and (yes, i did the math), 8% of the wedding costs! Did you include “son of”?
Post # 3
My parents are divorced and we’re paying for the wedding ourselves so we just put:
Jingle and Fi, together with their parents, request….
I was like you and didn’t want to go into the whole parents names thing! But to be honest I would put their name in it becaue they might be upset if you don’t and you don’t want them holding a grudge, afterall they’ll be your inlaws!
Post # 4
Ohh thats what I’m afraid of! I like my Future Mother-In-Law, and if I only had to put her name, I would. But then I have to include Future Father-In-Law, who really isnt in the picture at all.
I appreciate that she’s paying for the flowers, but does it warrant a spot on the invite? I think it’ll read too much like an announcement, rather than an invitation.
Post # 5
Hm, I haven’t thought about that either…. and my FI’s parents are divorced as well. At least his mom is no longer dating the 30-something guy that she brought along to his sister’s graduation last year!! *awkward*
Post # 6
I don’t think you have to put her name on the invite. Most invites I’ve seen either say what jingle96 said, or just the bride’s parents. Engagement/Wedding announcements usually have both sets of parents mentioned.
Post # 7
My parents are divorced and everyone is helping to pay for the wedding so we put together with their parents, bride and groom’s names invite you to the wedding.
My brother’s wedding the bride’s parents were divorced and remarried too so it was going to be even longer and they put. Together with their Families bride and groom request you ____
Post # 8
I’ve only seen invites that include the bride’s parents!
instead of “son of”, it just goes directly into the invitation part
Post # 9
The way you are wording it alludes that your parents are paying for it. Is your concern with having their names on it, that people will think they are sharing the cost? Or, is it because you have to list 4 names (assuming FI’s parents got remarried)?
Are you close to FMIL? If so, ask her if she wants her name on the invite? I’d think it would be an honor. Also, ask your parents if they mind (since they are really footing the bill).
Fiance and I are paying for the wedding, but we are putting: daughter of… and son of… and including our mother and father’s names (even though both our fathers are deceased).
Post # 10
@Oracle, well it’s everything you mentioned. I think it’ a nice gesture to include inlaws names, but them being divorced makes it too wordy for my liking. My parents are pretty traditional, and feel that her name should not be included on the invite. My Future Mother-In-Law, is kind as can be, and I don’t want her to feel unappreciated for her contributions. Yet, I still understnad my parents—they are paying tens of thousands more than her. It’s not a “together with their parents” type of situation.
Post # 11
Have your Fiance talk to his mom about it… we were worried that my FI’s parents would feel excluded if their names weren’t on (they paid for Rehearsal Dinner only), but when he talked to them, they were like, “What? Groom’s parents names are NEVER on the invitation!” If you’re hoping not to put their names on, have your Fiance mention that it’s more traditional to put just the bride’s parents’ names, and be prepared to honor her contribution in some other way (without announcing the budget breakdown to your guests), like a thank you note in the program, or he can make a toast/speech thanking guests for attending and parents for all their hard work and support.
Post # 12
My parents are divorced and my dad is remarried. we are paying for most of the wedding my parents put in about 5% and his parents put in nothing except for the rehearsal dinner. Just because they aren’t paying for it doesn’t make them less important. We chose to word it his way
Mrs. Brides Mom
along with Mr and Mrs. Brides dad and last name
request the pleasure of your company at the marriage of their daughter
Son of Mr and Mrs. Grooms Parents.
Post # 13
I think we are going to include “son of” only because my mom (who is paying for the whole thing) actually wants to recognize my FI’s parents.
Are both of his parents remarried? Is that what makes it lengthy? B/c if it was just “son of Mr. bob smith and Mrs. lisa jones” that’s not that bad. Although I agree,the whole “son of” thing does sound a little more like an announcement.
One other way of doing it, would be to say
Mr. and Mrs. Bride’s parents
Ms. Groom’s Mom and Mr. Groom’s dad
request the honor….of their children Bride and Groom….
It may be giving the groom’s parents a bit more “credit” than they really deserve…but its an option.