(Closed) Wedding Invite for a Married Lesbian Couple

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll:
    The Mesdames Rosie and Kellie O'Donnell : (3 votes)
    13 %
    Mrs. Rosie and Mrs. Kellie O'Donnell : (20 votes)
    87 %
    Mesdames O'Donnell : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    214 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I tell my brides to address each one by name, so I picked #2.

    Mrs. Apple & Banana Smith or Mrs. Apple Smith & Mrs. Banana Smith

    If they don’t share the same last name then address them individually on 2 lines.

    Mrs. Apple Smith

    Mrs. Banana Johnson

    Post # 4
    3367 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011


    So sorry… that link wasn’t helpful at all.

    Post # 5
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    If they share a last name, address them like you would any heterosexual married couple. If they don’t, address it like you’re doing a non-married couple that lives together. If you’re going the French ‘Madame’ route, keep that up, and if you’re doing the ‘Mr. and Mrs.,’ just do ‘Mrs. and Mrs.’ Hope that helps!

    Post # 7
    18 posts
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Best option is knowing how they refer to themsleves.  If you’re not sure, I’m going to give you another option  – if they kept different names, use Ms. Jane Apple and Ms. Joan Banana.  That’s what you do for straight couples where the woman keeps her maiden name. 


    Ps – I’m a married lesbian who kept my name, and that’s how I like to see it.

    Post # 8
    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    Urm…Mesdames is actually the correct way to put it etiquette-wise.


    Mesdames Jane & Linda Doe

    Mrs. & Mrs. is kind of strange if they share the same last name, and I wouldn’t want to be referred to that way (also in a same-sex relationship).

    @crabbyappleton: I ditto this unless you are doing really formal wording on everyone else’s.

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