Post # 1
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Honey bee
I’m not really sure how to respond to this. An old high school friend recently got engaged (kind of weird circumstances…she was dating another guy than suddenly engaged to an old BF)…anyway, I’m really happy for her. She invited me to the wedding and gave me a date in July. Then she changed it to a different date in another month and now apparently it’s a ‘final’ date. However, she sent me (among a bunch of others) a facebook message giving a few details of the wedding and asking me to let her know if I can come. I’m confused…is this an invite? I don’t take FB messages very seriously so my inital thought was it wasn’t. Has anyone ever been invited to a wedding via facebook?
Post # 3
Hostess
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Honey Beekeeper
That is so strange. I don’t think a facebook message is a good way to invite people!
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
No I never have and wouldn’t know how to take that either. Ask he if it’s an invite or just a heads-up.
Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
Ummm… no. I don’t think i’d take it very seriously.
Post # 6
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Helper bee
I haven’t been invited by a Facebook message but I wonder if there is a reason she is doing this. Did she move the wedding up and didn’t think she’d have time to get invites out? Do they not have enough money?
I would respond saying that you would love to come (if you do in fact want to go) and casually ask her if an invitation will be coming in the mail so you can send a formal reply back or so you can let her know what you are eating etc?
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
I’d just write her back and ask when she’s sending out her invitations. If she writes back and says they aren’t doing paper invitations, then it’s an invite. Just see how she responds. But yeah, that’s weird. FB = not the place for wedding stuff.
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I say no but if its cheaper for them to just send an invite i get it but there is also Evite why didnt they do that? maybe she already send her round 1 of invites out that invite the A list and now she gets to invite some more people her B list and didnt have invited. but i dont take it serious at all and i probably wouldnt go!
Post # 9
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Honey bee
She actually moved the wedding back a month to August so there would be time to send out invites. I’m not thinking cost is an issue but I could be wrong. But I would think even an evite or something, as opposed to a facebook message. It’s also her facebook status, so I’m not sure if it’s a completely open event and anyone can come or what. I’m extremely confused and don’t want to offend her.
Post # 10
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Sugar bee
Hmmm that’s bizarre. If it’s an “open event” I’m interested to see how she pulls that off.
Post # 11
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Honey bee
I think this is actually her first round of invites since they just got offically engaged (she told me they were secretly engaged a few weeks ago and that she wanted me to come to the wedding). It honestly seems more like an unoffical poll to see who can come? I don’t know….I guess I need to ask her I just don’t want to offend.
Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
I’ve asked for addresses via FB but never been invited or invited anyone. I’ve heard of electronic invitations and I’m sure you actually could email someone asking them to come so I would take it as an invite. REspond ‘yes’ and see what happens!
Post # 13
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Blushing bee
I got a facebook invite last year. I wasn’t impressed. I got it a week before the wedding! She’s a coworker and she sent a group facebook msg to myself and the other coworkers a week before the wedding and actually was mad when nobody showed up. We work in retail and you need to book off a day at least two weeks in advance so obviously none of us could get it off work. I thought it was a little rude though because she had talked about her invitations a few months earlier so obviously we were just deemed not worthy enough for the real ones.
In your situation I would take it as an actual invitation unless you receive one later on and RSVP through facebook if that’s how you were invited. It’s weird in my opinion because there are always other free options like other people said. Plus I don’t really get how she’s going to accommodate everyone on her facebook friend list if she has it as her status. I’d try talking to her about it, maybe ask her if she needs your address or something?
Post # 14
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Helper bee
Not the greatest invite but an invite is an invite and she did ask for a response, so yes I’d say that is how she’s actually inviting you.
I’ve gotten a verbal invite before (had lost contact with the girl until about a month before the wedding and then we started hanging out), but never a FB.. I’d likely respond no.
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
ive gotten a FB invite before. very odd, and it was “hey it would be great if yall could come this weekend” and im like… ummmm yeahhhh we are busy?
weird.
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
I would write back or call for clarification. Since it’s a message and not a wall post or something, she may consider it the same as an e-vite. Especially since the date is so soon, they may be skipping formal invites all together.
