(Closed) Wedding Invite via facebook?!?!

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it an official invite if it's a facebook message?
    Yes : (13 votes)
    18 %
    No : (43 votes)
    61 %
    Not sure : (15 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
    18637 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    That is so strange.  I don’t think a facebook message is a good way to invite people!

    Post # 4
    7152 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    No I never have and wouldn’t know how to take that either. Ask he if it’s an invite or just a heads-up.

    Post # 5
    7777 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    Ummm… no. I don’t think i’d take it very seriously.

    Post # 6
    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I haven’t been invited by a Facebook message but I wonder if there is a reason she is doing this. Did she move the wedding up and didn’t think she’d have time to get invites out? Do they not have enough money?

    I would respond saying that you would love to come (if you do in fact want to go) and casually ask her if an invitation will be coming in the mail so you can send a formal reply back or so you can let her know what you are eating etc?

    Post # 7
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I’d just write her back and ask when she’s sending out her invitations. If she writes back and says they aren’t doing paper invitations, then it’s an invite. Just see how she responds. But yeah, that’s weird. FB = not the place for wedding stuff.

    Post # 8
    1545 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I say no but if its cheaper for them to just send an invite i get it but there is also Evite why didnt they do that? maybe she already send her round 1 of invites out that invite the A list and now she gets to invite some more people her B list and didnt have invited. but i dont take it serious at all and i probably wouldnt go!

    Post # 10
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Hmmm that’s bizarre. If it’s an “open event” I’m interested to see how she pulls that off.

    Post # 12
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’ve asked for addresses via FB but never been invited or invited anyone. I’ve heard of electronic invitations and I’m sure you actually could email someone asking them to come so I would take it as an invite. REspond ‘yes’ and see what happens!

    Post # 13
    191 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I got a facebook invite last year. I wasn’t impressed. I got it a week before the wedding! She’s a coworker and she sent a group facebook msg to myself and the other coworkers a week before the wedding and actually was mad when nobody showed up. We work in retail and you need to book off a day at least two weeks in advance so obviously none of us could get it off work. I thought it was a little rude though because she had talked about her invitations a few months earlier so obviously we were just deemed not worthy enough for the real ones.

    In your situation I would take it as an actual invitation unless you receive one later on and RSVP through facebook if that’s how you were invited. It’s weird in my opinion because there are always other free options like other people said. Plus I don’t really get how she’s going to accommodate everyone on her facebook friend list if she has it as her status. I’d try talking to her about it, maybe ask her if she needs your address or something?

    Post # 14
    461 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Not the greatest invite but an invite is an invite and she did ask for a response, so yes I’d say that is how she’s actually inviting you.

    I’ve gotten a verbal invite before (had lost contact with the girl until about a month before the wedding and then we started hanging out), but never a FB..  I’d likely respond no.

    Post # 15
    2186 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    ive gotten a FB invite before. very odd, and it was “hey it would be great if yall could come this weekend” and im like… ummmm yeahhhh we are busy?


    Post # 16
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would write back or call for clarification.  Since it’s a message and not a wall post or something, she may consider it the same as an e-vite.  Especially since the date is so soon, they may be skipping formal invites all together.

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