(Closed) Wedding Invites- should you include registry info?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Don’t include registry info with the invites. Many people consider it rude and offensive and gift-grabby. Registry can be listed on a wedding website or spread by word of mouth through wedding party and family members

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Unless this is VERY common for basically everyone in your circle and with your family, dont do it!

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

I’ve only ever gotten two invites that DIDN’T include it…….if the majority of your circle do it, I would! I too, like the convenience of it – I think it’s more rude to make me go search Google or call your relatives. I don’t see anything wrong with a small insert saying ‘the happy couple are registered at x & y’.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Traditional etiquette rules against hinting to your guests that you expect gifts, let alone instructing them on what gifts you want them to buy and where. This isn’t because the mean old etiquette gods don’t want you to get stuff, but more to protect you from making people think you are materialistic and more interested in presents than in the culmination of True Love. The people who know you best probably have a clue what you like or need; those whom you know less well might have depths of good taste and give gifts better than you would have registered for. And the rest can probably find your registry with relatively little effort.

However, if you do decide to flout etiquette, run it past your mother and your fiance’s mother first. Just because something is commonly done among your friends doesn’t mean the older generations accept it, and something might be thoroughly acceptable to your family and still give his family a poor impression of you. But if both mothers advise in favourite of including registry cards, you are probably safe.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I vote no on this one. If people want to know where you’re registered, they can ask around or check your website. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I put a little card, like PP said… It depends on your circle, every invite I’ve ever gotten has it. 

ETA: we registered at crate and barrel and they gave us little cards that just said take a peek at their wish list.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

no

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Definitely do not put registry cards into your invitations, for the reason’s some pps provided. 

However, according to the wedding etiquette experts with whom I consulted, it actually IS acceptable to include links to your registries on your wedding website. 

If you are enclosing an accommodations card (with directions and information about hotel accommodations, etc.) as one of your invitation inserts, it is acceptable to list your wedding website address (but NOT the registry information) somewhere on that card.  (Example:  For additional wedding details, please visit our website at _______.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

If it were me, I would not. But I have received one or two invites in the past that included it.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Where I’m from lots of ppl include it. No one seems to care either way.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Registry info should only be passed out via word of mouth. People will be offended if you include a registry card in your invites.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m having an “information” insert. On there I have the address of my venue and directions and then something like “For accomodations and registry information, visit our website at ….”  That way, it’s not directly saying where I am registered, but letting people know where they can find the registry.

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