(Closed) Wedding Invites When you have a step parent

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

“Together with our families…” It kept our invites simple and didn’t hurt anyone’s feelings (that I’m aware of).

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Is your dad helping pay for the wedding? If so I would say you should include her. After all, it is her money too. I am including the name of both my step parents on our wedding invites. 

Ms. YourMom

and

Mr. and Mrs. Yourdadandstepmom

request the pleasure of your company….

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think in this case there is nothing you can do not to burn bridges but put your stepmom’s name on the invite. Even though you do not consider her to be your step mother she still is. I have the same situation with my stepmom, we do not get along AT ALL and never have but my relationship with my father and his feelings are ultimately more important and I know that he would be upset if she wasn’t included and so I put my stepmom on my invite as well.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@alleycat1984:  If your father is helping to pay for and is serving as a host of your wedding, I think you need to include your stepmother, as she would be considered to be part of a social unit with your father, and their resources would be shared. If he is not helping to pay or is not serving as a host, and your invitation is simply naming your parents (i.e. “Alleycat 1984, daughter of Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Smith), you probably do not need to include your stepmother.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You could just say “Your full name and his full name, together with their parents (leave out any name/names) request your company…” and then whoever considers themselves parents can think that way and for you it can just mean your actual parents. It’s a pretty common modern thing to do.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I have a great relationship with my Stepmom, but she’s not on the invite.

Mom Rebwana and
Dad Rebwana
request the pleasure…

They’re on two lines so no one gets confused about their marital status.

Post # 11
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence

I’d do the “together with their parents” thing or leave it out entirely. I wasn’t sure what to do with ours because it’s in my mom’s space but nobody is contributing cash, but my dad is doing all kinds of stuff for us, and Mr. D’s parents aren’t really able to do much… so I’m leaving it out entirely…

Post # 12
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Sugar bee

FI’s parents aren’t together and he has a step-mom. We didn’t want to step on anyone’s toes or have any hurt feelings so we just wrote “Together with their families” on ours.

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